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How to Properly Finger a Woman

woman in bedThere are many ways to make a woman orgasm, but using your fingers is one of the easiest ways. After all, hand and finger stimulation of the vulva and clitoris is reported to be the most common method of masturbation among women. However, not many men know how to pleasure their women by using their fingers. It involves much more than just sticking them inside her and moving them around.

The most common misconception about fingering is that men assume the “in-out” action is most pleasurable.  In fact, the in-out motion of a finger can become more irritating than stimulating.  The vaginal lips are pretty sensitive, and repeat friction begins to chafe.

The most pleasant sensation is derived from applying pressure to the vaginal walls, particularly the G-spot. This sexual stimulation is due to the many highly sensitive nerve endings in the G-spot. Using more than one finger may increase pleasure felt in some women as it stimulates the vaginal walls, which may also stimulate the G-spot as pressure increases and the vagina is filled.

Slide your fingers slowly between her lips, and let yourself explore a little bit to find your bearings.  If she is aroused, you should be able to feel a rough, spongy spot on the roof of her vaginal wall.  Push on it.  You should move your fingers in a “come here” type of motion.  Check your partner’s response to different pressures and adjust to what makes her squeal.

Do not bother moving your fingers in and out to simulate intercourse.  She will most likely be in absolute erotic bliss just by having her G-spot pressed.  Change the pace of the pressing and note her reaction.  Does she want it fast and hard or slow and easy?  If you can’t tell, ask her. Find a regular motion that she likes and repeat it again and again.

To give her even more pleasure, place your thumb on her clitoris while you press her G-spot. Even just letting it rest there feels good. Make use of both hands. One can be massaging the clitoris while the other wanders to other areas, such as the breasts.

Don’t go about fingering your woman with a certain time frame in mind. You may “hit the jackpot” right away, or you might not. Just give both yourselves time to get used to the different sensations. This is actually one of those times when the journey is as good as the destination.

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  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
  • Fox2: Not sure if commenting is working at the moment. Thanks but even though these positions will help maximise my...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: These positions help maximize what you have, whatever that is.
  • Fox: Would these positions help with a penis 4-4.5inches long and around 4inches around? Or do you need to be packing...
  • BOB: FUR
  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
  • Jane Doe: This article not only implies that all men want submissive partners, it tells women to take on a persona....
  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.