How to Give Your First Blow Job: 5 Steps to Suck-cess

Have you been thinking about giving your first blow job, but feeling a little nervous about actually doing it? Maybe you’re worried that you’ll do something wrong, or that you’ll be so bad that the boy won;t enjoy it. It’s completely normal to be nervous about trying something new for the first time. Fortunately, giving a blow job isn’t rocket science. Following this step-by-step guide is all it will take to make your first blow job a huge “suck-cess.”

1) Get into position. When you’re ready to give your first blow job, you will need to get into a position where you can put the penis into your mouth and move your head. The traditional position for a blow job is for the girl to be on her knees with the boy standing or sitting in front of her. Another good position is for the girl to be sitting with the boy standing in front of her. However, any position is fine as long as you can stay in it awhile and move your head.

2) Put the penis into your mouth. When the boy takes his penis out (or has you take it out), use your hand to stroke the shaft a few times to get used to handling it, and then put just the head into your mouth. Alternate between swirling your tongue around the head and sucking on it while you continue stroking the shaft. When he’s almost or completely hard, try putting more of his penis into your mouth. See how much you can take before it causes you start to gag a little. When you find that point, put your hand around the base of his penis high enough so that only that much penis will go in. Sometimes, when a boy gets excited, he starts thrusting his hips or pushing your head down. If he does, using your hand for a “stopper” will prevent him from pushing his penis in farther than you can handle.

You might be surprised at how good it feels to have a penis in your mouth. Having something in your mouth to suck on usually feels good anyway, and the silky soft skin, the hard shaft, and the spongier head of a penis provide a variety of sensations for your mouth and tongue. The most sensitive parts of the penis are the head and the underside of the shaft, so you’ll want to give them extra attention. Speaking of sensitivity, be careful with your teeth. Use your lips to shield your teeth so that you don’t bite or scrape his penis with them.

3) Use pressure and movement to get him excited. There’s more to giving a blow job than just bobbing your head up and down. Pressure and movement are what cause a penis to ejaculate. However, without pressure, all the movement in the world won’t make most boys climax, so try to keep your mouth as tight on his penis as you can. Also, be sure to use your tongue a lot. This warm, wet, flexible organ is what makes blow jobs feel so good, so use it as much as you can.

When the boy begins to ooze pre-ejaculatory fluid, aka pre-cum, from the tip of his penis, it’s a sign that you’re making progress. This is not semen, nor the ejaculation, but it indicates that the boy is turned on by what you’re doing. From this point on, be sure to keep the penis in your mouth and keep up the pressure and movement. If your jaws and tongue get tired, you can use your hand to help keep the pressure on.

4) Bring him to orgasm. As a boy gets close to orgasm, he may start making noises, thrusting his hips, or grabbing your head. (Remember the “stopper” technique?) If he does, keep doing whatever you were doing that got him to that point because that’s what will take him over the edge. You should be pumping fast and furiously with your mouth (and your hand if you can’t move fast enough with your mouth).

Just before ejaculation, you may feel the penis harden, swell, and spasm, but that first spurt of semen may still catch you by surprise. You may also be surprised by the force and amount of the ejaculation, whcih can sometimes be a little overwhelming, even though it’s also exciting and satisfying since you know that you caused it. Just hang on and enjoy your reward for doing a good job.

5) Swallow. Be sure to keep stimulating his penis during his ejaculation. This makes his climax last longer and feel better. Continuing to suck through the orgasm – “sucking him dry” – leaves him both physically and emotionally satisfied. You can either swallow his semen as he ejaculates, or keep it in your mouth and swallow it afterward. Swallowing afterward is better because that gives you the chance to savor the taste and texture (which varies from boy to boy). Also, boys love to watch you swallow their semen!

After the boy finishes ejaculating and you’ve swallowed what was in your mouth, you can finish the blow job by”milking” his penis – squeezing at the base and sliding your hand up the shaft toward the head – to get the last bit of semen out, and then licking his penis clean. When you’re finished, smiling at him and saying something nice about his penis, how big an ejaculation he had, how good his semen tasted, or how much you enjoyed giving him a blow job will make him feel even better than he already does.

Once you’ve had “suck-cess” with your first blow job and found out for yourself how much fun they are, you will undoubtedly be giving many more. My posts 8 Fellatio Tricks That Drive Men Wild and 5 Advanced Fellatio Techniques can give you some ideas for new things to try with your future blow jobs, but eventually, you’ll develop your own blow job style. Have fun!

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31 Responses to “How to Give Your First Blow Job: 5 Steps to Suck-cess”

  1. william Says:

    I got hard just reading that LOl! and #5 is so right…continue sucking DURING the orgasm. too many girls stop as soon as you start coming. it’s very frustrating.
    you’re a good writer svetlana. i always enjoy your articles.

  2. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    At least you got something from reading the article, William. Maybe you should share it with your favorite fellatrix :).

  3. Darlene Porter Says:

    I am a crossdresser ,straight but very bi-curious. I’m just about ready to try cocksucking. I found the man I think I would be comfortable blowing.Reading “How to give your first blowjob, 5 steps to suck-ess” I think, has given me the courage to actually tell him my desire.

  4. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    Good luck!

  5. kguilf Says:

    You had me until “swallow.” I just hate that part — the taste is not enjoyable to me. I worked at Gay Days in Orlando a few weeks ago and saw this new product called Masque that masks the flavors of semen. I tried the chocolate one and it was GREAT and my boyfriend was THRILLED! I also just saw an ad in Cosmo for it too! I’d recommend trying it!

  6. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    As you say, your “boyfriend was THRILLED.” That’s why girls should swallow, but if you need something to help mask the taste, go for it. Not everyone thinks that the taste is bad, but for those who do, I wrote a post 7 Tips for Swallowing Semen.

  7. Jeff Says:

    Svetlana

    being experienced, does the first splash and explosiveness of semen still catch you by surprise or are you able to tell when a man is going to be explosive?
    What is the climax of excitement for you, the moment before ejaculation when you feel the penis harden, the first splash of semen or when ejaculation comes to an end?

  8. steve Says:

    Svetlana ; Would you suggest that guys abstain from orgasm (masturbation), so that the blowjob ejaculation is more “pronounced” then? I know that mine gives a woman much more sensation of “squirting” if I have not had an orgasm in a few days. Instead of one teaspoon, it is about three tablespoons of semen.

  9. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    Yes, you would both enjoy it more, and she wouldn’t have to work so hard to get you off.

  10. steve Says:

    Svetlana, Do you think it is clean and healthy for two guys (sex relationship “exclusive” to only her) to regularly ejaculate in a woman’s vagina? Both, most nights of the week, one at a time?

  11. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    It should be.

  12. Jeff Says:

    Svetlana

    what ratio of blow jobs do you experience an ejaculation that is more explosive than the average?

  13. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    I don’t know. Where do you draw the line? If it’s explosive enough to notice, not that often.

  14. Ashley Says:

    Steve,, me and my husband have been having 3some you might have read it in here before. We have been doing it for 11yrs both cum inside me we are exclusive and no problems to say of

  15. Smashley Says:

    Svetlana,
    Do you think guys would find it ok if I moaned when I gave them a blow job? I was wonderin cause I’m a bit of a moaner.And seeing the guy I like turned on,turns me on too,alot.
    Thanks for answering if you do :D

  16. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    Would they like it? They’d love it! It will turn them on even more.

  17. BlowjobHow Says:

    Hey Svetlana, nice article for beginners! I like the stopper technique. It’s important for beginners to maintain control – remember you are giving him head, so you are in control.

  18. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    Definitely. You have his penis in your mouth, so you are in control :).

  19. Jeff Says:

    Svetlana

    do you experience any physical sensations flowing through your body when having a man ejaculate into your mouth?

  20. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    In my experience, only the man has an orgasm from an ejaculation during oral sex.

  21. jack Says:

    I am a man and love giving blow jobs, I love to give lots of slurping and humming sounds. I never satisfy my self until I have swallowed a load of cum, the orgasm is so much more intense when you have the taste of cum in your mouth and the knowledge that you have pleased a man

  22. shelly Says:

    I am new to giving bjs.my ex husband didnt care if he had one.but i am datingnow and it seems to be important.when i did give them i finished it with my hand,the guy im dating now wants me to try to swallow..i need help..i am scared of puking..how embarrassing would that be..someone help me..i also worry that my blowjob i give isnt very good..i mean how do u know.and what will help me over my fear of having cum in my mouth

  23. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    Your fear of having semen in your mouth is a phobia. A young girl, who recently gave her first blow job, told her sister that she “sincerely liked the semen, the flavor, how it felt in her mouth.” She had never been told that semen was horrible, so she liked it. My post 7 Tips for Swallowing Semen has been helpful to countless women who hadn’t yet learned to enjoy swallowing. The biggest tip, though, is to make up your mind that you want to do it. It works.

  24. Jeff Says:

    Svetlana

    From a woman’s perspective, describe the excitement you feel when you cause a man to ejaculate into your mouth.

  25. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    The excitement is a combination of feeling the man’s excitement and anticipation of the climax.

  26. Jeff Says:

    After feeling the penis harden and swell, how long does it take for the initial spasm and spurt of semen to be felt? Does the length of time vary between men? Do some men take longer/shorter than others to begin ejaculation after feeling the penis has undergo hardening and swelling?

  27. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    The time varies, but it’s seldom takes long.

  28. Tesla Says:

    I have been married for almost 4 years and am just now starting to not be as shy to give him oral or touch his penis. Is there any advice on how to build more confidence or when is the right time/place to pleasure him? I am always too worried that he wont want me to and that he’ll shut me down in other words.

  29. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    You know your husband best, but most men like oral sex just about anytime and anyplace, and they also enjoy women taking the initiative because it takes the pressure of them. Just use common sense to avoid times when he is rushed, stressed, or focused on something important that he has to get done. What builds confidence is success. Has your husband enjoyed what you’ve done in the past, or if he hasn’t have you learned some new tricks? Again, though as long as you don’t bite, there isn’t too much that a man won’t like.

  30. Jeff Says:

    From the first spurt of semen to the last, what parts of the mouth is the shooting of semen most often felt.

  31. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    All over.

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