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How to Give a Woman an Anal Orgasm

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Anal sexAnal sex can be extremely pleasurable, not only for men, but also for women. Generally, for women, the pleasure received from anal intercourse is due to the shared nerve endings located between the rectal wall and the vagina, and/or from indirect stimulation of the G-spot and Deep Spot. The anus also contains many nerves that can react in a pleasurable manner when excited. An anal orgasm is an orgasm produced by anal stimulation. All women are able to achieve it, but only a lucky few have actually experienced one. Those who have often describe an anal orgasm as stronger than other types.

How to Give a Woman an Anal Orgasm

Star by separating the buttocks a little bit and massaging the area near the anus. Take a lubricated finger and start gently stroking and making circles around the outside of the anus. Eventually, staart putting a light amount of pressure on the anus while massaging it in a circular motion.

With light pressure and circles, and plenty of lube, eventually the anus relaxes and the end of the finger starts to enter her anus. As this does, start to reposition your finger so it’s pointing into her anus. The motion starts to change to more of an in-and-out than circular motion, making sure that it stays well-lubricated.

As she loosens up and takes more of your finger in, position your hand/finger and move it in a direction that follows the natural shape of her rectum. Slide it out, re-lubricate and slide it back in periodically. If she loosens up enough, add a second finger. If it’s too tight to fit a second finger inside, then just let the other finger or fingers rest against the outside of her anus, rubbing it.

When she feels ready, you can choose from several positions that tend to angle the penis toward the upper vaginal wall.

1) The Missionary position allows the woman to fully relax her anus, making penetration much easier. The woman lies on her back with a pillow under her pelvis and her legs pulled up. The man should kneel or lie facing the woman and insert at an angle that is comfortable to both.

2) Flying Doggy is a variation of the doggy-style position. The man stands behind the woman and places his feet outside the legs of the woman. The man will be positioned higher and will be inserting into the anus in a more downward fashion.

2) Downward Doggy is another variation of doggy-style. The woman lies on her stomach, legs together, with the man lying on top of her, supported by his elbows and knees, which are straddling her hips. A pillow underneeath her pevic area helps with comfort and access.

Make sure more lube is applied in and around her anus, and a lot on your penis. Hold your penis by the base with one hand, rub the tip in a circular motion around her anus with light pressure while massaging her clitoris with the other hand (or she can do that herself). Then add just a little more pressure while making the circles smaller. Then (very important) have HER start to slowly push back against you until the head slides inside.

Usually (unless she’s loosened up or pushes all the way back onto you), you should stay in that position a little while until she’s comfortable with it and adjusts to the penis being inside her. Then she slowly (with your help pushing if she wants) pushes more back, and you both rock as your penis slides in and out deeper and deeper until you’re all the way in. Let her set the pace in terms of movement (fast or slow, deeper or more shallow penetration, harder thrusts, etc.). When you feel she’s ready to climax, manual stimulation of the clitoris can help take her over the edge .

As you can see an anal orgasm is completely achievable, and it will be very pleasurable for your woman. The key is lots of lube, lots of time,and  letting her set the pace. When done properly, anal sex can be incredible and anal orgasms are a real possibility.

My book Anal Sex Secrets is a guide to great anal sex for both anal sex beginners and for couples who are searching for new things to try. To find out more about it, click here.

5 Responses to How to Give a Woman an Anal Orgasm

  • steve says:

    Can the same be applied to a man and strap -on wearing woman?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    A man has a more direct route to an anal orgasm than a woman – his prostate. Otherwise, it’s pretty much the same.

  • Dorian says:

    How about penis size and anal sex? Do you see an advantage or disadvantage of a bigger penis for anal sex? Would you prefer anal sex with an above or below average size penis?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    I’ve written an article about how to have anal sex with a big penis. It does present a challenge that a smaller penis does not for anal sex. A big penis is harder to get in, but once it is in, it provides more feeling and stimulation.

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