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How to Give a Lap Dance

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Want to make your man go gaga? It’s not just about what you do in bed that counts. Sure, great sex technique will make you a star in his eyes, but knowing how to tease him will make you a legend. Looking at the female body sway and move to sensual music is a major turn on and a dream come true for most men. A lap dance is the ultimate way to pleasure a man and if you like to dance, then why not?

Treating your man to a lap dance should be hot, but actually giving one can be, well, awkward. No matter how awkward you feel though, remember that he will be turned on by it. Lap dancing is actually not that hard to do anyway. All you need are a few tips on how to give a lap dance, plus some sexy moves to use, and you’ll be ready to drive him crazy .

How to Give a Lap Dance

1) Background Music

Pick music that turns you on. Remember that your moves need to flow with the song to make the dance more sensual. Feel at one with the beats and allow the music to take control over your body. Just let your body sway to the music.

2) Lighting

Visibility is important when it comes to lap dancing. The whole point is for your man to see you. You may think dim lighting is sexier, but he may not agree.

3) Eye Contact

Maintain an eye contact with your man. Seduce him with your eyes, smile, and facial expressions.

4) Hands Off

Don’t let him touch you. After all, the customers can’t touch, only the dancers can

5) Lingerie.

Whenever you give a lap dance, wear lingerie that you have never worn before. Experiment with different styles and colors each time you give him a lap dance. During the dance, you can either remain in your lingerie or remove it.

If you wish to remove it, slowly slide a finger under the elastic of your panties with a sultry smile on your face. Slowly take a hand on each side and move them down, swaying back and forth ever so slightly. Drop them to the ground and slowly step out of them. Then, glide your hands up your legs and over your hips. Now slowly run them over the front of your chest. If your bra hooks in back, glide your hands to your back and remove. If it hooks in front, glide your hands over your breasts and unhook letting it fall to floor. Then, move in towards his face with your chest.

Lap Dance Moves

Your man should be seated in a chair against the wall – you’ll need to use the wall for support –  with his legs spread open. You’ll want to stay within the triangle-shaped space between his thighs as you perform these moves:

1) The Lean

Stand between his legs and lean your upper body forward, with your back arched and your butt up in the air, so he gets a hot view of your body. Put your hands on the wall above him, or rest them on the arms of the chair for support. Then tease him by inching your breasts closer and closer to his face – but don’t let him touch – or dip forward even further and rub them against his chest.

2) The Lotion

For this one, start a little further back, right between his knees, so he can see everything you’re doing. Take your hands and slowly start to rub your breasts, like you’re putting on body lotion. Touch yourself like you would want him to touch you: trail your hands down to your lower abs just above your vulva, work your way back up to your chest, or turn around and massage your butt. The key is to go in slow motion, so he can imagine having his hands all over you.

3) The Grinding Circle

Stand about two feet from your partner, with your feet slightly more than hip-width apart and your toes turned out. With your hips, begin to draw a circle, keeping your back arched. Now slowly bend your knees and grind down as far as is comfortable, then up again, continually undulating your hips and dancing erotically. It’s really important to keep your back arched and upright when you do this.

4) The Turn

Lap dancing is about showing off all your assets, so remember to turn around occasionally. For the best effect, turn slowly. Your man should barely notice. When you practice, work out which direction is most natural for you to turn in. Don’t be overly concerned with how you do it. Just take small steps and aim to make the turn blend into and become part of your dance. Keep circling your hips, and remember your arm movements. As far as possible, try to keep your lover in your gaze as you turn.

5) The Lap Dance Grind

Gracefully dance yourself into the triangle made by your lover’s open legs, and stand with your back to him and your feet together. Make sure you’re as close to the chair as possible. Now bend your knees, keeping your back straight, and gently put your hands on your partner’s knees. Lower your bottom toward his lap so that you can just feel his crotch on your skin. Then, keeping your hands on his knees for support, grind down gently, moving your hips in a circular or forward-and-backward motion. Look over your shoulder at your man while you do this, if you can. This is a little tricky, though! Take extra care whenever you go near his groin. If you hurt him, he’ll never trust you to dance for him again!

A lap dance can act as a great way to liven up a dull relationship or add further fuel to an otherwise fiery relationship. Remember that there is no need to be perfect. The very thought of his woman dancing, stripping, and showing off her body is enough to turn on a man. You really do not need to try that hard. Just relax and let your feminine instincts take over.

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3 Responses to How to Give a Lap Dance

  • T says:

    Good tips for my girlfriend, but do you have a blog post concerning how men should strip for a woman? In this case it’s several women so it’s not so personal as one on one stripping.

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    No, I don’t. Hmmm… I’ll have to think about that.

  • T says:

    Thanks anyway. Still got plenty of time to look for info, practice etc. but I find that there’s not so much good information on that topic.

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