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How to Enjoy Giving Fellatio

Couple in BedA lot of women don’t like giving oral sex, and this can cause major problems within  their relationship. If you constantly tell your partner that you don’t want to do that, then he will start to grow frustrated. He may even start to look elsewhere for what he isn’t getting at home. According to a Men’s Health magazine survey 44% of men actually broke up with their lovers because of poor or non-existent blow jobs. Giving a man oral pleasure shouldn’t be difficult or intimidating though.  Many women do love giving a man oral sex, and these five tips can help you to learn to love it too.

First of all, you need to realize that giving a man fellatio is not degrading for a woman. In fact, it is just the opposite. Giving a man oral sex allows you to have all of the powr. His most precious possession is in your mouth, and you control his sexual pleasure. With this power, comes sexual confidence and this in itself turns a lot of women on.  Also, watching your man reach orgasm from your mouth and hand is exciting and gratifying.

Of course, you can’t enjoy giving fellatio if you’re worried about gagging. You can use the Stopper Technique to maintain control over the depth his penis goes into your mouth. To perform this technique, wrap one hand around his shaft at the base, to use as a stopper, allowing only as much of his penis into your mouth as you’re comfortable with. You can also use that hand to squeeze and stroke his penis, which will add to the pleasure he is receiving from your mouth.

Another way to maintain control and be comfortable to get into the right position. Have your man lie back on a bed or couch while you give him fellatio from between his legs or from the side. He may still try to force your head down when he gets excited, but if you’re using the Stopper Technique, your head will only go down to the top of your hand.

Of course some women don’t like to give fellatio because they are worried about the ejaculation. If you don’t want to swallow, you don’t have to, naturally, but it will disappointing to your partner if you don’t. To avoid tasting the semen, take his penis as deep into your mouth as you can when he ejaculates. The semen will go almost straight down your throat, and you will barely taste it.

Finally, some women may not want to give fellatio because they feel that they aren’t very good at it. The basics are simple though. Start slowly and give the entire penis a lot of attention. If he seems to like something, keep doing it for awhile. As he gets more  excited, speed up and concentrate more on the head of his penis and add your hand to the action. When he gets close to orgasm, keep doing what you were doing that got him to that point.  Then when he begins to ejaculate, keep his penis in your mouth and keep sucking (and stroking) through his orgasm.

While you may have valid objections to giving oral sex, as you can see, they are easily resolved. Why deny your man something he loves for no good reason? Giving fellatio may not save your relationship, but not giving fellatio can certainly hurt it.

All women know that men LOVE oral sex, but not all women know how to do it properly. Giving good fellatio is NOT just about opening your mouth and bobbing up and down. To find out what every woman needs to know about giving her man oral pleasure, click here!

3 Responses to How to Enjoy Giving Fellatio

  • Jeff says:


    What is more of a thrill and excitement booster for you while a man is ejaculating into your mouth? The man with a big and explosive load shooting into your mouth or a man that moans and groans loudly as he expresses his pleasure. Is it more thrilling for you to hear a man moan loudly with pleasure even though he’s only ejaculating a small load or is it more thrilling to feel a man ejaculating an explosive and big load while barely making a sound during his orgasm?


  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    A large, explosive ejaculation is more exciting; moaning and groaning with pleasure is more satisfying.

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