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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.
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Fellatio from a Female Perspective

deep-throat“Graze on my lips; and if those hills be dry, stray lower, where the pleasant fountains lie.”– William Shakespeare

Fellatio is the act of applying your lips and mouth to a man’s penis with the purpose of giving him pleasure. Fellatio, giving head, blow job – call it what you wish – is seldom discussed as an expression of female sexual empowerment, but rather as a form of male dominance. Taking a man’s penis in our mouths is traditionally seen as an act of submission. It is assumed we do it against our will.

However, fellatio can not only give a man immense pleasure, but can also be extremely empowering for a woman. I view the fellatio as a form of male surrender, something requiring a mutual degree of trust and self-restraint. It is one of the only times when a man is completely physically vulnerable, allowing a woman to have total control over his most sensitive organ using one of her most powerful organs – her mouth. The mouth can be an aggressive part of our anatomy, and we both know that it could induce severe pain and injury to the penis. This places a man completely at the mercy of his female partner (and her back molars).

Personally, I  love to begin fellatio with a flaccid penis because I enjoy the feeling of his penis growing bigger and harder in my mouth. I’m extremely aroused knowing that my mouth, my kisses, my tongue, my sucking, are creating his response.  The sensation of his penis literally tickling the back of my throat with subtle movements is a huge turn-on for me. The fact that he enjoys it so much makes it all that more pleasurable.

As he approaches climax, his penis grows even bigger and harder than I ever imagined that it could be. I can feel the hard contractions begin deep in his testicles, and then I can feel the surge of semen coming through the full length of his penis and shooting and splashing inside my mouth. The explosiveness of his semen shooting into my mouth can sometimes be a little overwhelming, but it’s also kind of exciting knowing that I caused it.

Then as, his body quiets, I can feel the last little contractions signaling the final release. It is a very powerful moment. The vulnerability and trust between us is the most incredibly satisfying feeling.

All women know that men LOVE oral sex, but not all women know how to do it properly. Giving good fellatio is NOT just about opening your mouth and bobbing up and down. To find out what every woman needs to know about giving her man oral pleasure, click here.

6 Responses to Fellatio from a Female Perspective

  • Nick says:

    What about pubic hair and body hair in general? Whats your opinion on that because my great grandparents were actually from Russia so I have a little bit here and there. Problem is, I was raised in a freaking desert so it serves no purpose whatsoever haha. I do my best to keep it trimmed but its such a damn hassle.

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    Neatly trimmed is my own preference, both visually and for annoyance-free oral sex. Incidentally, if you shave around the base about an inch or so (so a woman can deep throat without getting any pubic hair in her mouth), your penis looks bigger. It’s just a visual illusion, but it’s quicker and easier than doing penis enlargement exercises, which take time to work.

  • Nick says:

    It does work. Slimming down also does the trick.

  • Jeff says:

    Hey Svetlana

    do you think an ejaculation is more explosive while he shoots into your mouth or while fully deepthroating?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    If you mean which feels most explosive to the woman, definitely into the mouth.

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