Faking Orgasms: There’s Nothing Wrong with It
A new study indicates that many more women fake orgasms than their male partners realize. Erin Bradley explains why putting on a little show for the sake of good sex benefits all parties involved.
“Faking It?” crows the headline of a popular news site, followed by “New Sex Study May Rat You Out.” Oh my. Guess it’s time to purchase some sensible charcoal separates, get Gloria Allred on the horn, and prepare for my day in court.
The charge? Being a bad feminist, a bad lay, and a bad person. An Indiana University survey published this week in the Journal of Sexual Medicine points to a discrepancy in the number of men who believe their partner orgasmed during their last sexual encounter and the number of women confirming that they did, in fact, climax. In other words, a glaring, prison-yard spotlight has been shone down on the large number of women who fake it.
I am one of those women the study implicates: a woman who has, yes, faked an orgasm, and I’m here today to defend myself and anyone else who’s ever pulled a fast one on a partner. While pop surveys come and go, a disdain for my fellow co-conspirators that cannot be ignored hums in the background. Read more