Taoism is a spiritual tradition that embraces sexuality and uses it as a force for healing and spiritual growth. Jennifer Lawless describes a Taoist thrusting method called the Nine Steps, which is designed to stimulate, massage, and keep a man’s penis in an excellent state of readiness.

Taoist sexual practices are the way some Taoists practiced sex. Practitioners believed that by performing these sexual practices, one could stay in good health, and attain longevity. One of these practices was a thrusting method to stimulate, massage, and keep the man’s lingam (penis) at an excellent state of readiness. This Taoist thrusting method is called the Nine Steps.

To perform the Nine Steps to perfection, a man must possess great patience and staying power. One complete set of Nine Steps is 180 thrusts, so most men need training to achieve it. However, performing as many thrusts as possible will help the man in his general vitality and his female partner will be ecstatic from the sexual stimulation she receives. Read more

Tantric sex isn’t so much a set of techniques as an approach to sex. In Tantra, sex is a means to reach higher states of consciousness. Maithuna is ritual sex used to attain spiritual unification with your partner.

Maithuna is a Sanskrit term used in Tantra, which is most often translated as sexual union within a ritual. Maithuna refers to the coming together of god and goddess with the acknowledgement that everything is sacred, from food to acts of lovemaking. It uses physical unification for the purpose of creating spiritual unification.

Since Maithuna is practiced as a spiritual ceremony, there is an acknowledgement and honoring of a divine being. However, in Tantra, this deity is acknowledged and honored in your partner, rather than as an intellectual concept or spiritual ideal. Tantra encourages lovers to see the divinity in each other. Read more

I was one of those who thought that anal sex wasn’t Tantric, but Jennifer Lawless says it is and explains why”

Couples exploring Tantric sex are not likely to find much information about anal sex and might conclude, therefore, that anal sex isn’t Tantric. However, that isn’t true. In fact, anal sex fits well within the Tantric tradition and facilitates several goals of Tantric sex.

For example, one of the key aspects of Tantra has been violating personal and cultural taboos. Read more

Tantra teacher Al Link explains how to do a Tantra and Kama Sutra technique that brings great pleasure to a woman and helps a man to last.

A superb thrusting technique that brings great pleasure to a woman and helps a man to last is a combination of deep and shallow thrusts. By shallow thrusts we mean your penis only enters 11/2 to 2 inches inside your partner. This first couple of inches is the most sensitive part of a woman’s vagina. Deep thrusts mean your penis enters as fully as you can. Read more

All men love fellatio, and many women love giving it, but most of us don’t think of it as a form of worship. It can be, though, says Jennifer Lawless.

In Tantra, the penis is called the lingam, which in Sanskrit can be translated as “Wand of Light.” Worship of the generative organs has been practiced throughout history. Evidence of phallic worship goes back 28,000 years – give or take a few years. One way for a woman to worship her man’s lingam is to create a lingam shrine. Another way is to perform Tantric fellatio.

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Begin by slowly taking your man’s lingam into your mouth as deeply as you can. Hold it there for a moment while you appreciate its hardness and length. Then, go on to perform fellatio on his lingam as lovingly as you know how. Remember to maintain eye contact as much as possible. Read more

Tantric sex educator Jaiya talks about how some of the Tantric White Tigress oral sex practices resemble porn clichés, such as the “facial,” and she explains why she doesn’t think they are degrading to women within that tradition.

I take her point that a practice is only degrading if you think it is. For example, Jaiya mentions deep throating, which I don’t consider degrading at all, since I get both emotional and sexual pleasure from doing it. However, I believe the purpose of the facial, whether conscious or subconscious, is to degrade the woman. On the other hand, within the White Tigress tradition, it has a purpose that benefits women. Therefore, if my partner and I were both practitioners, I could accept it in the spirit in which it was given.

Inspired by ancient Tantric  teachings, Cosmopolitan came up with its own version of Tantric sex: an updated, totally modern, four-step program to tempt, tease, and then thoroughly please.

Imagine: Your man strolls through your front door and announces, “Baby, forget Must-See TV. Tonight, I want to worship your body, massage you head to heel, make love to you on a higher spiritual plane, then provoke an out-of-this-world orgasm so you reach a whole new pleasure plateau.”

Probably, you’d think either you were dreaming or your guy had temporarily lost touch with reality. Well, in the case of tantric sex, you’d essentially be right on both counts. Tantra is the exotic art of prolonging your passion play to reach new levels of lusty satisfaction. “The idea is to build arousal very slowly so you both stay just below the boiling point for as long as possible,” explains Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex. “That way you really focus on the full sexual journey — getting turned on, stimulating each of your five senses for maximum passion, harmonizing your sexual rhythms.” The result is an out-of-body bond with your partner plus very physical ecstatic orgasms.

Inspired by the sexual success of these ancient love teachings (who wouldn’t be?), Cosmo came up with its own turbo-charged version of tantra. Here, our updated, totally modern four-step passion program (plus twists on classic tantric moves) to tempt, tease, then thoroughly please. Grab your guy and get ready for a trip toward erotic enlightenment. Read more