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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Sex Techniques

5 Tips for Men to Give Her the Best Sex She’s Ever Had (From a Woman’s Perspective)

A woman gives men five tips for giving their partner the best sex she’s ever had.

Listen up guys: most lesbians love men. Sure, we might not fall in love with men, but we tend to love guys as friends and peers.

Some of us gay gals love playing sports with guys. Some queer women love geeking out on video games and technology with our nerdy brothers. Just like the affinity between straight women and gay men, there can be a lot of camaraderie between lesbians and straight men. We have so much in common, after all, including a passionate love for women and the desire to sexually satisfy our female lovers. Read more

5 Sex Moves to Try When Thrusting Isn’t Getting Her Off

When your thrusting isn’t getting your partner off, sexpert Pam Babbitt suggests these five sexy moves.

I’m betting that your current sexual paradigm is a far cry from where you started … does get hard, get in, get off sound familiar? But have you considered your thrusting?

In sex , more thrusting does not necessarily mean more pleasure. With stillness, a man’s penis will begin to direct him how to make love, when to move, when to be still. For both partners, motionlessness has the psychological effect of quieting the mind, and it can also be used to moderate your arousal. Read more

10 Sex Tips for When You’re Feeling Tired and Lazy

Brittany Smith gives ten sex tips for when you’re feeling tired and lazy.

Sweaty, electrifying sex in crazy, off-the-wall places is fantastic. But let’s be real: There are times when you’re just not in the mood to put the effort into raunchy sex positions or test your strength during shower or standing against-the-wall sex. Read more

Kunyaza: African Secret to Ultimate Female Orgasm

Kunyaza is a sex technique from Central Africa that uses tapping and rubbing the penis over the clitoris and vulva before penetration in order to increase female arousal and prepare her body for intercourse. Then, similar movements at the opening to the vagina are alternated with shallow and deep thrusts in order to stimulate the G-spot area and trigger female ejaculation. The basic idea behind Kunyaza is to  combine both external and internal stimulation using varied, rhythmic  movements that are adjusted according to the response of the woman. Continue reading

The Art of the Hand Job

Tantric sex practitioner Shakti Amarantha describes how to give a hand job the Tantric way.

I’m continuing to collect things I wrote in other places that are relevant here. In this case, I was asked to explain what I mean by “giving a great handjob.” (I’m going to describe giving one to a man, but the setup is similar and there’s a link at the end to more detailed instructions for women.)

For starters, I strongly recommend three things: Read more

9 Sex Tips That Anyone With a Vagina Should Try

Casey Gueren says that anyone with a vagina should give these nine sex tips a try.

You may have heard that vaginas are confusing, mysterious genitals that require a lot of troubleshooting and magic to elicit an orgasm.

OK, that can definitely be true, but that doesn’t mean that finding out what feels good should be a complete crapshoot either. There just hasn’t been a ton of science on what increases the odds of having a vaginal or clitoral orgasm, which is a damn shame. Read more

10 Throwback Cosmo Sex Tips You Could Use Tonight

Cosmopolitan magazine has been publishing sex tips for a long time. Alyssa Fiorentino has found ten oldies but goodies that you can use tonight.

What I love about sex, besides the fact that it’s, hello, sex, is that it stays the same over time. Which, fortunately for us, means that digging up sex tips from vintage issues of Cosmopolitan is just as educational as it is fun. Long before the editors at Cosmo were suggesting the ol’ donut on his ding-dong trick (which has been tested and approved), there were these, um, interesting tips: Read more

Recent Comments

  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
  • Fox2: Not sure if commenting is working at the moment. Thanks but even though these positions will help maximise my...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: These positions help maximize what you have, whatever that is.
  • Fox: Would these positions help with a penis 4-4.5inches long and around 4inches around? Or do you need to be packing...
  • BOB: FUR
  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
  • Jane Doe: This article not only implies that all men want submissive partners, it tells women to take on a persona....
  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.