About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Sex Techniques

10 Sex Tips for When You’re Feeling Tired and Lazy

Brittany Smith gives ten sex tips for when you’re feeling tired and lazy.

Sweaty, electrifying sex in crazy, off-the-wall places is fantastic. But let’s be real: There are times when you’re just not in the mood to put the effort into raunchy sex positions or test your strength during shower or standing against-the-wall sex. Read more

Kunyaza: African Secret to Ultimate Female Orgasm

Kunyaza is a sex technique from Central Africa that uses tapping and rubbing the penis over the clitoris and vulva before penetration in order to increase female arousal and prepare her body for intercourse. Then, similar movements at the opening to the vagina are alternated with shallow and deep thrusts in order to stimulate the G-spot area and trigger female ejaculation. The basic idea behind Kunyaza is to  combine both external and internal stimulation using varied, rhythmic  movements that are adjusted according to the response of the woman. Continue reading

The Art of the Hand Job

Tantric sex practitioner Shakti Amarantha describes how to give a hand job the Tantric way.

I’m continuing to collect things I wrote in other places that are relevant here. In this case, I was asked to explain what I mean by “giving a great handjob.” (I’m going to describe giving one to a man, but the setup is similar and there’s a link at the end to more detailed instructions for women.)

For starters, I strongly recommend three things: Read more

9 Sex Tips That Anyone With a Vagina Should Try

Casey Gueren says that anyone with a vagina should give these nine sex tips a try.

You may have heard that vaginas are confusing, mysterious genitals that require a lot of troubleshooting and magic to elicit an orgasm.

OK, that can definitely be true, but that doesn’t mean that finding out what feels good should be a complete crapshoot either. There just hasn’t been a ton of science on what increases the odds of having a vaginal or clitoral orgasm, which is a damn shame. Read more

10 Throwback Cosmo Sex Tips You Could Use Tonight

Cosmopolitan magazine has been publishing sex tips for a long time. Alyssa Fiorentino has found ten oldies but goodies that you can use tonight.

What I love about sex, besides the fact that it’s, hello, sex, is that it stays the same over time. Which, fortunately for us, means that digging up sex tips from vintage issues of Cosmopolitan is just as educational as it is fun. Long before the editors at Cosmo were suggesting the ol’ donut on his ding-dong trick (which has been tested and approved), there were these, um, interesting tips: Read more

Supersize Your Orgasms

Follow this step-by- step guide to deliver a supersized orgasm – one for him, one for her!

Give him the best orgasm he’s ever had
Yes, we all know the joke says simply handing him a beer and taking off your clothes will do the trick.

But we’re after a super-sized orgasm here, so start with the beer and nakedness and add a whispered promise that he doesn’t have to do anything: just take.

He’s in heaven already. Read more

5 Porn Tricks to Leave to the Pros

More likely than not, re-enacting the moves you see in porn won’t make you a sex god. They’ll just make you another man who’s clueless in bed.

Want to screw yourself over in the sack? Keep watching other people screw each other on the Internet.

Porn, as titillating as it may be, can really give you an unrealistic impression of what women want in bed. Thing is, a lot of dudes watch it—which means a lot of dudes end up trying to pull off some PornHub Hall-of-Fame position that ultimately ends up being a real buzzkill. Read more

Recent Comments

  • Wes: Still one of my favorite positions. The wife gets bored with it after awhile, but indulges me. The article had a...
  • Tom: Nuru can be fantastic IF done correctly, with a person the uses the correct lotion, mat and stimulation. Because...
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