About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Sexual Relationships

10 Things Men Wish Women Knew About Sex

Find out ten things men wish women knew about male sexuality.

Freud called female sexuality “the dark continent”; if that’s true, male sexuality could qualify as the dark planet. But when it comes to sex, guys are simple, right? Not true. The bedroom is one of the great stages of male performance, and as such, what you see and hear is typically the role, not the reality. It’s no wonder, in trying to please the actor, a woman loses sight of a guy’s true identity. Here are 10 “unmasking” facts you may want to know: Read more

5 Must-Haves for a Successful Friends With Benefits Arrangement

JoEllen Notte says you must have these five things for a successful friends-with-benefits relationships.

I love having friends with benefits!

No-strings-attached sex with someone who I’m comfortable with? Awesome!

The thing is, because so many of us were taught that committed relationships were the goal of all sex, this is new territory for a lot of folks — and that can lead to trouble.

With that in mind, I’ve put together this handy list of 5 keys to successful friends with benefits relationships to help you keep your FWB time WTF-free: Read more

5 (Totally Fixable) Mistakes Men Should STOP Making in Bed

If you’re unsatisfied with your sex life, see if you might be making these mistakes.

By now you may have perfected the missionary position and learned how to unhook a bra with one hand. But there’s still plenty you could be doing to get women more interested in having sex with you.

“If you’re being offered a template on how to titillate and stimulate your woman, take it!” says sex educator Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright. “She’s not suggesting that you’re bad in bed; she’s just letting you know what her preferences are.”

Women like having sex. A lot of them love it, and a few even think about it all the time. But their shortcoming is that they often want men to be mind readers. Many women aren’t confident enough to ask for what they want in bed, so instead, they accept a so-so sex life. Read more

Women Share the Lies They’ve Told in Bed

Fifteen women reveal the outrageous lies they’ve told during sex.

For most guys, sex is a pretty tricky subject. We’re taught from a young age that it’s weird, or bad, or dirty, or sinful. Then puberty hits and, holy cow, we can’t think about anything else. We aren’t given any real instructions except for “don’t get an infection” and “don’t get anyone pregnant,” unless we get the explicit instructions “don’t have any sex with anyone until you’re married.”

Our first times are awkward, bad, sometimes painful and sometimes emotionally scarring. Ultimately we kind of cobble together a toolkit of “things to do during sex” through trial and error. But even by their mid- to late-20s, many guys really aren’t any good in bed.  Read more

How to Get Her in the Mood for Morning Sex

Ali Eaves explains what to do when you’re an early riser, and she isn’t.

It bugs me how late she likes to sleep on weekends. How do I get her to join me at the breakfast table?
—Andrew from Athens, Ohio

You’re hoping I’ll say morning sex, aren’t you?

Sorry, but I’d suggest bacon. There are few people on Earth who aren’t roused by the smell of sizzling pork fat.  Read more

5 Things Men Think Women Like in Bed – But Don’t

Men often believe women like these five things, but they don’t, says Lindsay Tigar.

You all have certain go-to moves in the bedroom that one girlfriend acted like she loved, so you’ve tried it with every girlfriend since then. While it might seem like something that really gets women going, it’s important to actually pay attention if it’s doing the trick, or, well, boring her (or worse, freaking her out). Just like every new person you have sex with makes for a different experience, new bodies respond in varying ways to positions, techniques and moves, and as a great lover, it’s important to always shape your habits to fit your lover’s needs. (Just as they’ll do the same with you.) Read more

Tips for Making Love to Older Women

Porn star Nina Hartley offers men tips on making love with older women.

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