About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Sexual Relationships

How to Ask Your Partner for Kinkier Sex

Sexpert Emily Morse answers a reader question about how to ask for kinkier sex:

I’ve been dating my current boyfriend for just about a year now, and he’s amazing! We have great sex, but it’s not always the most exciting. He regularly asks me what I’m interested in, but I don’t know how to approach the topic. We recently took a sex questionnaire (where you compare answers at the end), and it really helped me to get some of my wants out on the table—which he’s been very responsive to—but I’d still like to try some more exciting things, like temperature play and being tied down.

How do I bring these up without (a) scaring the pants off him and (b) making him feel bad? Because I love our sex, I just think it could be more intense and sensual.

Thank you in advance,

Amelia, 26, France Read more

Here’s What 9 Happy Couples Always Do Before Bed

Although routines get a bad rap when it comes to sex, some routines can be can make sex better.

Routines get a bad rep when it comes to romance. (Cue images of eating dinner in front of the TV and passing out before you can even think about getting frisky.) But that’s not necessarily the case. Plenty of happy couples will tell you that routine isn’t the enemy – in fact, establishing a nightly habit can help strengthen your bond and make you even happier. As counterintuitive as it may sound, the secret to staying out of a relationship rut might actually be to establish a daily routine. Read more

How to Master the Art of a Not-So-Subtle Booty Call

Corey Stieg reveals how to master the art of the not-so-subtle booty call.

The phrase, “You up?” has a way of taking a text message conversation from flirty to frustrating — fast. But sometimes, when you need to get across that, yes, you would like to have sex with that person in the very immediate future, asking if they’re up is a simple way to do it.

But people tend to have a strong reaction to this cliché booty call ask because it can feel selfish in nature, explains Samantha Burns, LMHC, a millennial-relationship expert. “[It’s] like the pursuer doesn’t want to put in the effort to cultivate an emotional connection, and cares more about gratifying his or her own sexual needs,” Burns says. Read more

10 Things That Turn Men on in the Bedroom

Mark Rosenfeld reveals the top ten thing turn men on in the bedroom.

5 Things Women Can Do to Be Better in Bed

Nikolao Montaya, shares five things women can do to be better in bed.

Men are often given advice about how to perform sexually, while women are left to themselves to figure it out on their own. The only information they are ever given come from women’s magazines and talk shows that don’t care about telling them the truth. They would rather repeat the same old things that make everyone nod instead of educating girls and make them better in bed. So for those women who want their men to stick around, here’s how you do it. Read more

5 Good Girl Turned Bad Girl Sex Tricks

Discover the hidden vixen waiting to come out and play with these five sex tricks every bad girl uses!

Have you ever secretly wished you were a bad girl in disguise? Most guy’s secret fantasy is knowing that while their woman is respectable, they can also get down and dirty in the bedroom. Not sure how to release the vixen within? It’s not as difficult as you may think! You don’t need tons of sexual experience, leather get-ups (although they don’t hurt!) or a demanding attitude. What you do need is a willingness to explore being more confident in your sexual life. To help you out, we’ve compiled the best Bad Girl Tricks that will turn you into a bedroom vixen almost overnight. Your partner won’t know what hit him, but he sure won’t be complaining! Read more

What to Do if You’ve Run Out of Ideas for What to Do in Bed

The longer you’ve been together, the more likely this is to happen: what do you do when you’ve run out of ideas for what to do in bed? Sexpert Tracey Cox has some thoughts.

Lots of couples think the ‘new’ thing has to be something crazy kinky to work. It doesn’t.

The trick is to try one or two small things and build from there.

Here’s some ideas to get you started: Read more

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