About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Sexual Relationships

7 Ways to Be Good in Bed

Sexpert Tracey Cox says there are seven things you must master to be good in bed.

A great body? Being able to tie a cherry stalk into a knot with your tongue? Knowing every position in the Kama Sutra?

What ARE the qualities that separate an average lover from a brilliant one?

I’d say if you can tick all these boxes, you can award yourself a big gold star! Read more

6 Tips for Having Casual Sex

Casual sex isn’t just for sluts anymore. Maura Kelly gives six tips for how to have casual sex.

Lovelies:

Over the weekend, I spent some time with my dear friend Jack, a frequent contributor to Nerve.com, where he writes the column “I Did It for Science.” Jack is absolutely frighteningly brilliant–or at least, I’m always half-terrified, when I’m with him, that I won’t be able to keep up: He has a B.A. from Brown and a Ph.D. in Medieval Literature from Duke. And yet, he’s no geek: When he talks, you’re mesmerized by the stories he tells, amazed by the books he waxes so eloquent about it, and laughing at the jokes he’s always making. Plus, he’s so rakishly handsome–with a thick swirl of ginger hair, a toothy smile, and high cheekbones–that I always have a moment of elevated heart-beating when I first see him again. As if all that weren’t fantastic enough, he is a huge sweetheart: in addition to being attentive and sweet when we’re hanging out, he also goes out of his way to help me in any way he can. Read more

What Is the Right Time to Orgasm?

Women reveal when they want their partners to orgasm.

Orgasming is the obvious end goal to pretty much every sex act. But when it comes to how long it takes you to get there, what’s the ideal amount of time to last before giving yourself over to the big “O”?

Of course, the answer is going to vary from person to person. But if you’re taking too long or climaxing too early, it’s likely that your partner is going to try out a few tactics to either speed things up — or keep you from coming Read more

7 Sneaky Ways to Show a Man What You Like in Bed

Some women are afraid that their sex partners will be offended or think they’re sluts if they tell them what they want in bed, so Isis Nezbeth  reveals some alternative ways to make your point.

The only thing worse than not having sex is having bad sex, but how do you let him know he’s not getting you there? Should you even tell him? The answer is yes. Sometimes you gotta let him know what’s up! You don’t have to argue about the sex, you can simply show him what you really want. Here are seven sneaky ways to show him what you really want in bed. Let’s get into it! Read more

10 Things Men Wish Women Knew About Sex

Find out ten things men wish women knew about male sexuality.

Freud called female sexuality “the dark continent”; if that’s true, male sexuality could qualify as the dark planet. But when it comes to sex, guys are simple, right? Not true. The bedroom is one of the great stages of male performance, and as such, what you see and hear is typically the role, not the reality. It’s no wonder, in trying to please the actor, a woman loses sight of a guy’s true identity. Here are 10 “unmasking” facts you may want to know: Read more

5 Must-Haves for a Successful Friends With Benefits Arrangement

JoEllen Notte says you must have these five things for a successful friends-with-benefits relationships.

I love having friends with benefits!

No-strings-attached sex with someone who I’m comfortable with? Awesome!

The thing is, because so many of us were taught that committed relationships were the goal of all sex, this is new territory for a lot of folks — and that can lead to trouble.

With that in mind, I’ve put together this handy list of 5 keys to successful friends with benefits relationships to help you keep your FWB time WTF-free: Read more

5 (Totally Fixable) Mistakes Men Should STOP Making in Bed

If you’re unsatisfied with your sex life, see if you might be making these mistakes.

By now you may have perfected the missionary position and learned how to unhook a bra with one hand. But there’s still plenty you could be doing to get women more interested in having sex with you.

“If you’re being offered a template on how to titillate and stimulate your woman, take it!” says sex educator Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright. “She’s not suggesting that you’re bad in bed; she’s just letting you know what her preferences are.”

Women like having sex. A lot of them love it, and a few even think about it all the time. But their shortcoming is that they often want men to be mind readers. Many women aren’t confident enough to ask for what they want in bed, so instead, they accept a so-so sex life. Read more

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