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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Sex Work

Paying for Sex No Longer a Male Preserve

Paying for sex is no longer a male preserve. Mary-Anne Toy explores the world of male escorts and why more women want their services. I just don’t see this as a growing trend myself because, as a sex industry lobbyist points out in the article “women don’t buy sex, they don’t need to. If they want sex, they can just go get it for free wherever they want.”

She is well educated, well spoken and very well groomed: an attractive blonde in her 30s used to men hitting on her in bars. So why did ”Eva”* pay a man to have sex with her? And how did that encounter lead her, a single mother with a full-time professional job, into secretly running a male escort business?

About two years ago, fed up with internet dating and the desultory randomness of the bar scene, but missing male company, Eva toyed with the idea of using a male escort.

Ignoring the storm of censorial voices inside her head, all screaming variations of ”nice girls don’t do that” and worse, she started searching online. Read more

Why Aren’t More Women Prostitutes?

Superfreakonomics authors Steven Levitt and Stephen Dubner ask why more women aren’t prostitutes. I think their descriptions of LaSheena and Allie answer their own question.

Sure, authors Steven Levitt and Stephen Dubner acknowledge, streetwalking is tough work. But being a high-end escort is big fun, just like being a trophy wife without the marriage. So why don’t more women do it?

In an excerpt from their new book Superfreakonomics, Levitt and Dubner profile two women. One, LaSheena, has “a beaten-down look in her eyes,” and makes her money stealing and turning tricks on Chicago’s South Side. She says prostitution “bothers me mentally,” and she’s not pulling down that much money either — street prostitutes in Chicago make about $350 a week. The other woman is Allie, an attractive blond who works about 15 hours a week having sex with men in her pretty bedroom for $500 an hour. Allie “genuinely likes the men who come to her” and “they treat her, in many ways, as men are expected to treat their wives but often don’t.” She’s also building on the entrepreneurial skills she’s learned as a prostitute by going back to school in economics. Life, for Allie, is good.

It’s so good, in fact, that “the less she works, the more she earns,” and she can charge ever-higher fees without scaring off clients. Levitt and Dubner write, Read more

Call Girl Claims Spitzer Choked Her during Sex

The Daily News reports that a call girl is claiming that Eliot Spitzer choked her during sex.

His political rivals used to accuse Eliot Spitzer of going for the jugular. Now a new call girl is claiming the former governor literally went for hers — claiming he wrapped his fingers around her neck during some kinky role-playing. Read more

The 7 Best Movies about Sex Work

From the most realistic to the hottest sex, Monica Shores summarizes the seven best movies about sex work.

Sure, you’ve seen Natalie Portman’s mild masquerade as a stripper in Closer, watched Melanie Griffith ditz around as a prostitute in Milk Money, and enjoyed the delightful cheesiness of Sandra Oh and Daryl Hannah in the absolutely fabulous Dancing at the Blue Iguana, but is that really satisfying your penchant for sex workers on celluloid? Here’s a handy guide for you to better navigate the wealth of sex work-centric films Hollywood has to offer. Read more

Women Who Pay for Sex

Nowadays, it’s not just men who pay prostitutes to have sex with them. Some women use the services of escort agencies and pay for sex instead of cruising bars and clubs trying to find men.

It’s not just men who pay prostitutes to sleep with them. For some women, paying for sex is more convenient than cruising bars and clubs trying to find men.

“They don’t want to be found out. They want to do something private – it’s their own world, a part of their life that they want to be secret.” Read more

Recession Drives Professional Women to Kinky Sex Work

As the economy takes a spanking, some professional women are turning to the kinky sex business to supplement their incomes.

“I’ve seen it before,” says Linda, “during the tech bust in 2002. Women who thought they would always make a decent living in the tech sector lost their jobs.” They came looking to Linda’s industry for freelance work, and now it’s happening again: professional women whose cubicle-bound careers have been downsized are entering Linda’s corner of the “gig economy” — a corner that involves whips, ropes, and occasionally, nipple clamps. Read more

Sex Workers Move from Craigslist

In an attempt to stamp out sex crimes, the advertising site Craigslist has changed its policy on ads in its Erotic Services section. However, the sex trade goes on – just not on Craigslist.

Craigslist made a splash last month when it announced a set of policy changes aimed at stamping out sex crimes facilitated through the Erotic Services section of its site. But sex workers and legal experts say the measures are likely to have scant impact on the shadowy world of online prostitution.

Following the initial report about the new policies, a reader who identified herself as a “working girl in San Francisco” told InternetNews.com that Craigslist is hardly the only game in town.

“Because of the new procedure on Craigslist, we are turning to other Web sites … to promote our services,” she wrote in an e-mail. “These sites are free and just as effective. I don’t believe that this change in Craigslist will do anything to affect the industry.” Read more

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