Debonair magazine interviewed women about what they want want from their men in bed and discovered the nine sex moves women crave. Not every woman will crave all nine, but your woman is sure to crave at least one of them.

We went to the streets of New York to interview young, sexy women about what they want from their men in bed.  After many slaps (and a few phone numbers) we compiled the best nine tips to help our fellow mankind in the sack.  Just remember guys, with great knowledge comes great responsibility.

A Little Kinky

Think all women want it nice and slow?  Think again.  These women want it hot and heavy on the kitchen table, the bedroom floor, or just about anywhere else you can send them over the edge.  They like moves that show a guy’s strong, masculine side, just look at the advice below: Read more

Jo Hemmings, author of How to Have Great Sex, gives men step-by-step instructions on how to use the Extended Sexual Orgasm technique.

The ESO technique
If you take pride in the quality of your lady’s climax, then read on. Usually a woman’s orgasm lasts around 15 seconds at best but, according to American sexperts Alan and Donna Brauer, it’s possible to extend those sought-after shudders for as long as half an hour. The Brauers’ Extended Sexual Orgasm (ESO) technique is pretty demanding, but if followed correctly can yield deeply intense marathon orgasms – as well as sporadic pleasurable contractions up to 24 hours after the act. If there’s a better way to make amends after the inevitable Valentine’s row, we’d like to hear it. Read more

How much does the sense of smell factor into love, sex, and attractiveness? Though the sense of smell plays a sometimes mysterious role in sex, what the nose knows and its impact on sexual attractiveness is undeniable. Kaylen Jackson explains how aromatherapy can improve your sex life.

We’ve all lit the vanilla candles before sex to help create a romantic mood – but can other scents help turn you or your partner on even more? Science shows that aromatherapy really does work and that bringing different smells into the bedroom can instantly turn “blah” sex into “wow” sex. Here’s how you can use scents and aromatherapy to improve your sex life. Read more

From foreplay moves to the trick to having a mind-blowing orgasm, Cosmopolitan got their sex experts to reveal their favorite sex secrets.

Pop His Cork

Try the oral-sex technique “The Screw.” As you’re moving up his shaft with your mouth, turn your head a bit from side to side, letting your tongue follow a corkscrew pattern. When you get to the frenulum — that part of the shaft just beneath the head — be sure to lick it for a few seconds before moving all the way up to the top. Then repeat, moving down his shaft. What will drive him wild about this is that you aren’t just going up and down — you’re also going sideways. It’s 3-D! —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On Read more

Greta Christina explains why, when it comes to sex, it’s worth trying anything twice.

I don’t remember where I first heard it — and Google is coming up short, mostly it’s sending me to some country song I never heard of — but many years back, I read a piece of advice that stuck with me.

It was advice on staying “young at heart.” Whatever that means, I hate that phrase . . . but the advice was interesting and valid anyway. It said, “To stay young at heart, you have to be willing to try anything twice.”

Not once. Twice.

I want to talk about how that applies to sex. Read more

If your vagina could speak, it would probably say. “Slow down!”

In The Vagina Monologues, playwright Eve Ensler reported that she asked 600 women this question: “If your vagina could speak, what would it say?” The answer she overwhelmingly heard was, “Slow down!”

Ah, the proverbial frustration of every vulva and the woman to which it belongs; just because a gal has a female fun button does not mean it should be treated like a Fisher-Price toy. When it comes to sensual satisfaction, there’s an art to clitoral/vaginal/ female-genitalia persuasion. For every lover out there who has learned how to make our parts hum so sweetly, there are a dozen Tom, Dicks and Harrys (no pun intended of course) who could benefit from some lust lessons.

Diana Daffner has been rescuing couples from the sexual doldrums and dissatisfaction for 15 years. The author of several books and tapes on tantra sex, including the most recent, Tantric Sex for Busy Couples, she offers this sexy advice: Read more

From trying a butt plug to perfecting her boyfriend’s cunnilingus technique, Amelia McDonell-Parry lists her 25 sex resolutions for 2010.

Here are my resolutions for 2010: to go to Bikram yoga three days a week, to get in touch with friends I haven’t seen in awhile, to pursue a new hobby (maybe photography), and to take two really awesome vacations. Oh, and I have a few sex resolutions too. Last year I vowed to give less blow jobs (achieved!), but 2010 is here, I’m back on the blowie train, and I’m ready to make a few new sexy vows for the next decade. After the jump are 25 sex resolutions—a few of them are mine, but I’m not telling which. What are your sex resolutions for the new year?

1. …to shave my legs more often.
2. …to replace my stained period undies with saucy new pairs.
3. …to keep spicing things up.
4. …to get over my fear of sleeping with someone new.
5. …to have more of it. Read more

Women’s Health reveals how to have a great time in bed with five new foreplay ideas from author Debby Herbenick.

Imagine baking brownies without preheating the oven. Or running a marathon without training. Well, it’s important to apply that same logic to the bedroom: In order to have great sex, you need to get in a good warm-up first. But if you worry that your bedmate phones in foreplay just for your sake, you’ll be psyched to find out that scientists at the Kinsey Institute have discovered men need a little revving up too. “Guys often don’t get as much foreplay because women think an erection is proof a man is ready for sex,” says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., author of Because It Feels Good. “But men crave the intimacy and emotional connection that foreplay provides.” Here are five moves to max out the buildup to sex. Read more

Elizabeth Black describes her erotic shaving session with her husband and what it feels like to be bare “down there” for the first time in years.

To shave or not to shave—that is the question. I’ve always sported hair in my southern hemisphere, so when I saw porn where the models are bare except for a landing strip, I wondered what it would be like to be clean-shaven. I trim during the summer to keep my little curls from saying “boo!” when I wear a swimsuit, so when my husband begged me to let him shave me, I figured it might be fun…

Setting the Mood: A Hot Bath
I had no idea shaving could be so erotic! I surfed the web to learn more about erotic shaving, and I found lots of material that I took to heart because, after all, if it’s on the internet it must be true. The idea of spreading my legs while I sat perched on the bathroom sink while that electric razor buzzed along my pussy lips really turned me on like you wouldn’t believe.

I had to try it. Read more

Find out what’s a “no-no” in the bedroom with this list from Dr Pam Spurr of five things women hate.

Rough touch
“Men often enjoy a more aggressive approach to sex and touching, and understandably they assume women will enjoy the same,” says Dr Pam Spurr, author of Sensational Sex – The Revolutionary Guide To Sexual Pleasure And Fulfilment (Anova Books £7.99). “In most circumstances, however, women enjoy a ‘softer’ approach. Gentle touching actually stimulates more nerve endings – and many men actually find they also enjoy it if they can be persuaded to try.”

The Fix: “Ease up right now,” says Spurr. “It’s far better to hear her ask you to ‘go harder’ than to hear her shout ‘ouch’ or worse, to lie there not enjoying it.” Read more