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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Premature Ejaculation

Premature Ejaculation: How Should a Man React When It Happens?

An anticlimactic situation is every man’s greatest fear, but it doesn’t have to be awkward, says Sarah Stefanson. Believe it or not, women are aware that it happens every once in a while.

It happens to the best of men. You’re with a girl and it’s feeling good — really good. All of sudden, way too good. Before you know it, you’ve concluded your business and you’ve barely made it past the one-minute mark. As she stares quizzically into your eyes, you have a split second to decide what to do about your early ejaculation. Should you try to play it off with a joke or genuinely apologize? Here are the dos and don’ts of how to react. Read more

How to Delay Ejaculation

Sex and relationship psychotherapist Paula Hall outlines the cures for premature ejaculation.

What is premature ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation is the most common male sexual dysfunction. Research suggests it affects between 20-30% of men and can cause anxiety, depression and, of course, relationship problems.

It’s important to realise that every man comes quicker than he wants to occasionally, and some women can have unrealistic expectations of how long a man should last. There are, in fact, very few blokes who can piston away for more than a handful of minutes without some adjustment to their stimulation.

You’re unlikely to set longevity records if you’re feeling particularly fired up, or if it’s been a while since you last had sex. But it’s only classified as a ‘dysfunction’ if you feel you never have any control and you always come after just a few minutes’ stimulation.

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5 Tips to Lasting All Night Long

Premature ejaculation can “quickly” turn turn anticipation into disappointment. Isabella Stone gives men five tricks to lasting longer in bed.

Premature ejaculation affects a lot of guys. Tell me if this scenario sounds familiar: you’re in bed with a girl, you’re both enjoying yourselves, and you’re about to wow her with your next move when wham! You finish early. Your girl smiles and mumbles something, and you feel like a sexual failure.

This scene is all too common, but it thankfully can be avoided next time with just a few tweaks. Use the following tips next time you feel the need to push off that inevitable moment, and last all night. Read more

For more on this topic, see my posts 3 Easy Ways to Delay Ejaculation and The Best Sex Positions for Delaying Ejaculation.

What to Do the Morning after a Threesome

Suzy Bauer, author of Step by Step Threesome, suggests what couples can do the morning after a threesome to avoid negative feelings.

What can you do “The Morning After” a threesome to avoid negative feelings

After she’s gone, it‘s time for you and your partner to connect with each other, talk about the experience and re-live together what you’ve accomplished! This is the time to bring out your feelings and tell each other honestly how the experience was. It’s also the time to compliment each other as much as possible about what you just accomplished. From this moment the female in the seducing couple becomes the “queen of the world” and the male’s duty is to spoil her rotten for days to come. This works in his favor, because it’ll be an incentive for her to allow you to experience more threesomes!

A small tip that will simply show your thoughtfulness as a couple towards your friend is to send her a bouquet of flowers the next day with a nice but naughty card telling her how grateful you both are and how special she is. Mention that you’ll never forget that beautiful night. Read more

The Best Sex Position for Ejaculatory Control

Premature ejaculation is a condition in which a man ejaculates earlier than he or his partner would like him to. There are numerous reasons why a man ejaculates too quickly. Some are stress-related, some are mental, and some can be physical. When there is to much friction, or continual thrusting, or a great deal of mutual movement, a man’s ejaculation can be too quick, for both partners. To delay premature ejaculation, a man needs to avoid some sexual positions completely. Furthermore, there are two sex position that can be used that are guaranteed to avoid premature ejaculation.

Two Sex Positions to Avoid

The missionary sex position (man-on-top) and all its variations should be avoided. These are quite intimate positions and leave most of the work to the man. If the man has a problem in finishing too quickly, these positions will not help. Continue reading

3 Techniques to Guarantee All-Night Sex

Premature ejaculation is a condition where a man ejaculates earlier than he or his partner would like him to. Most men experience premature ejaculation at least once in their lives. The good news is that premature ejaculation can be easily cured with patience, effort, and knowledge. Learn to have longer lasting, better sex with these three techniques to guarantee all-night sex.

If you’re having problems with longevity in the sack, forget pills or “natural” remedies, as they’ll never help, says Dr Keith Hopcroft. “Also, try to keep cool about the situation. It usually improves with time, and ‘performance anxiety’ just makes matters worse.” Try these three techniques to help you go the distance: Read more

Premature Ejaculation Spray Enables Men to Last 6 times Longer after Penetration

A new premature ejaculation spray enabled men in a study to last six times longer after penetration.

Men with premature ejaculation who used a topical spray five minutes before intercourse were able to delay their orgasm six times longer than normal, according to a study in the April issue of BJU International. Read more

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  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
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