“Graze on my lips; and if those hills be dry, stray lower, where the pleasant fountains lie.”- William Shakespeare

Fellatio is the act of applying your lips and mouth to a man’s penis with the purpose of giving him pleasure. Fellatio, giving head, blow job – call it what you wish – is seldom discussed as an expression of female sexual empowerment, but rather as a form of male dominance. Taking a man’s penis in our mouths is traditionally seen as an act of submission. It is assumed we do it against our will.

However, fellatio can not only give a man immense pleasure, but can also be extremely empowering for a woman. I view the fellatio as a form of male surrender, something requiring a mutual degree of trust and self-restraint. (more…)

What does sex feel like for a woman? When men ask that question, what they usually want to know is what a penis feels like in your vagina. Saying it feels wonderful is enough to put a self-satisfied smirk on most men’s faces and end the discussion, but others aren’t so easily brushed off. They want to know exactly what it feels like when a penis enters you and moves  around inside.

For me, the most exquisite sensation of sexual intercourse is when the head first pushes past the lips into my vagina. At the very point of entrance, there is a resistance at first, and then a sensuous, stretched-out feeling as it slides in, though sometimes there’s some pain, depending on the lubrication factor or the size of the penis. When the penis first slides in all the way, it often sends involuntary shivers up my spine. While it’s going in, you can feel the head, but usually (in my case anyway) you can mostly only feel the shaft. If you’ve been waiting a long time for it (or have been teased for a long time), the first slide in feels like such a relief. It’s like an increase of tension and then a release. (more…)

Can a woman feel when a man ejaculates inside her? Curious men want to know, or at least several men I’ve known have been curious. I always said I could when they asked because I was pretty sure that’s what they wanted to hear. However, a more honest response would have been to say that it depends on what you mean by feel. (more…)

My posts about penis size are always popular, but the responses I get from women are about their concerns with how big their partner is, not about how small. Some women find that a very long or thick penis can cause discomfort and even pain during sex. A long penis can hurt because it can hit the cervix during penetration, and a thick penis may feel like it’s stretching you too much. Since I’m among the one in three women who does enjoy sex with a big penis, I’ll explain why I do.

It’s been said that the brain is the body’s largest sex organ. A big penis can be both a visual and a sensational turn on. The sight of a big penis makes many women think about the potential pleasures of feeling “full, ” which can cause sexual excitement before foreplay even begins. The “vaginal ache,” a desire to be “filled up” that women get during sexual arousal, may be satisfied by having something large stretch and fill the vagina. Also the experience of accommodating a big penis can be a mentally stimulating, thus, making it easier to reach orgasm. (more…)

I got the idea for doing this post from Wendy Blackheart’s list posted at her blog Heart Full of Black. I agree with her that it’s not easy to make a list like this, so, if you think some of the entries are lame, try making one yourself. (Here’s a list of 100 Sexy Facts by Melody Nieves at SexiDesign, who read my list and decided to make one of her own.)

1. I started having sex when I was 15,
2. But it wasn’t until my senior year of high school that I really started experimenting.
3. That’s when I first had anal sex,
4. And my first MFM threesome.
5. I’ve slept in the nude off and on since I was a teenager.
6. When I don’t, I wear panties.
7. I go commando sometimes, but not very often.
8. Same thing with going braless – once in awhile, but not very often.
9. I feel really sexy wearing stiletto heels,
10. But I don’t wear them often enough for them to be really comfortable. (more…)

Group sex is one of the most popular topics at Sex Secrets. My post The 3 Best Positions for MFM Threesomes ranks seventh all-time with over 12,000 page views. My only personal experience of group sex is with MFM threesomes. (I love being the center of attention, and I love double penetration.) However, my first MFM threesome – and double penetration – was memorable, not because of how good the sex was, but because it happened by surprise. (more…)

Anal sex is one of the most erotic and satisfying sexual practices a woman and her partner can enjoy. Anal sex is a different, tighter sensation than vaginal sex. The rectum, once it’s ready, literally swallows the penis up and can’t get enough. If the clitoris and/or vagina are stimulated while your man is inside you, it can take you to another sexual realm. It’s pretty intense, no matter what, and the increased tightness back there makes it just that much better. (more…)