About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Oral Sex

Top 5 Fellatio Tricks Men Wish Women Would Try

For many men, a blow job is the holy grail of sex. They usually appreciate almost any effort women make to satisfy them orally (except biting). Nevertheless, men will admit that there are some techniques that make fellatio better that not all women do. That’s too bad because the techniques they mention for the most part are  easy to do. It’s just that some women don’t know to do them. These are the top five fellatio tricks that men wish women would try. Continue reading

5 Ways to Make Your Partner Better at Going Down on You

If your partner is willing but unskilled at cunnilingus, here are five ways to make him better at going down on you.

Almost all women love receiving oral sex, but not every woman is good at giving it. Just being a woman doesn’t make you an expert at going down on another woman. If your lover is a bit below par in the oral department, here are five ways to make your lover better at going down on you. Remember that she is down there because she wants to please you, so help her to help you feel good.  Read more

6 Oral Sex Techniques That Deserve a Medal

Heather Jennings describes six oral sex techniques  that she says deserve some ind of medal.

This is kind of depressing, but we’re going to give it to you straight. According to a 2010 Esquire survey that the Internet will never let die, women may not be as excited about oral as we’ve been led to believe. To make matters worse, there really is such thing as an oral sex gap — women are twice as likely to go down on their partners and half as likely to receive pleasure when the favor is returned.

While oral sex sounds like a great appetizer to the main event in theory, 10 percent of the Esquire women said they didn’t like it at all. And a whopping 44 percent of women said it could be “nice” every once in a while. What gives? Well, you know, and we know, that many aren’t as proficient as they claim to be in the ways of the tongue beneath the sheets. And many of us women are shy about asking for what we want in bed, making even the best attempt at oral very awkward indeed. Read more

5 Cunnilingus Finger Techniques

Even though cunnilingus is oral sex,  these five finger techniques can make it even better.

Oral sex is mainly about the mouth and tongue, but that doesn’t mean you should adopt a hands-off policy when going down on your lover. Skillful fingers work quite well to help build the sexual tension that will be released with orgasm. Adding these five finger techniques to your oral sex repertoire will add to your lover’s pleasure. Read more

If You’ve Never Tried Irrumatio You’re Missing SO Many Orgasms

Sex adviser Susan Bratton says that if you’ve never tried irrumatio, you’re missing so many orgasms.

Most men admit to me that the oral sex they receive from their woman is not as good as they’d hope, yet they won’t tell their partner this because they’re afraid doing so might demoralize her.

The same way women are afraid to hurt a guy’s ego by giving him direction in bed, men don’t want to make us feel bad, especially if there’s a chance we might take serious offense and refuse not only to work together to improve the situation, but we also may withhold oral favors (or sex of any kind) in response.

After all, even a crappy blowjob is better than NO blowjob. Read more

For more about irrumatio, see my article Irrumatio: Even Better Than Fellatio?

Science Finds a Huge Benefit to Swallowing Semen

A study has found a huge benefit to swallowing semen.

What if someone told you that you could live longer without having to make a potion of your own blood and the hair of a virgin? What if the solution to living longer was in your very own home…actually, in your husband’s penis?

A study published in  revealed that spermidine, a chemical found in semen (but also in foods that you can eat with pleasure, like cheese and whole grains) helped rats’ hearts function better and reduced blood pressure, thereby helping them live longer.

“Our results suggest a new and feasible strategy for protection against cardiovascular disease,” the researchers wrote. Read more

How to Give a Mind-Blowing Blow Job

Tara Babcock reveals how to give and receive a mind-blowing blow job.

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