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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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FFM Threesomes: What to Do with the Other Woman

ThreesomeSo you’re a woman who has decided to take part in an FFM threesome, but you may be nervous about what you’ve gotten yourself into. One thing you might be wondering about it is whether you are expected to have lesbian sex with the other woman? the answer is, not if you don’t want to, but if you don’t, you should make that clear beforehand. Unless you’ve said otherwise, your female threesome partner probably expects to hook up with you in some fashion. If you wait until you’re naked in bed together to tell her that you aren’t interested in any sexual interaction with her, she could be disappointed, or even peeved, and that could ruin the threesome for everyone. Continue reading

The 6 Best FFM Threesome Positions

ThreesomeThreesome fantasies are common, and more and more people are acting them out. Many women fantasize about being with two men (See my post The 3 Best Positions for MFM Thressomes.), while the FFM threesome (two women, one man) is the ultimate dream-come-true for men. However, an FFM threesome appeals to a surprising number of women too. It not only allows them to fulfill their man’s fantasy, but it also provides a safe space for women to explore their bi-curious side if they have one. Continue reading

What to Do with the Other Woman During a Threesome

If you’re a woman who isn’t sure what to do with the other woman in a threesome, sexologist Ava Cadell, Ph.D., shares some suggestions.

So you’ve decided to recruit a third party to your no-pants dance. Woo! That is awesome. But now what? (Cue crickets.) Inviting another woman into your bedroom for a threesome is as much about you as it is your guy, but unlike the man in your life, you’ve probably never gotten jiggy with a woman—which puts you at a disadvantage. And if you and the other lady stay focused on him, that doesn’t equal a good time for anyone since it can cause a competitive vibe between women, says sexologist Ava Cadell, Ph.D., founder of Sexpert.com. Read more

A Porn Star Explains Threesomes

Porn star Joanna Angel explains threesomes.

Porn stars: They’re just like us! Joanna Angel really is, though, and I’m not just saying that because she and I both identify as chosen people. Angel is more than a porn star — she’s a porn auteur who writes, directs, acts, and runs her own company, BurningAngel.com (NSFW, obviously).

When she’s not busy getting her brains banged out on camera or doling out advice for Vivid Radio, she’s doing what any sex-loving human does: Having tons of sex. Read more

What Makes Women Want to Have a Threesome?

What makes women want to have a threesome? These women tell all.

According to the American Sex Survey conducted by ABC, 14% of adults (and twice as many single men!) have had a threesome. Another 21% have fantasized about it. But if adding another player in your bedroom is something you’ve always dreamed of, it might take some convincing to get your girlfriend up to the challenge.

While some women ‘gift’ a threesome for their guy’s milestone birthdays (y’know, once you’ve been together for many, many years) or when they find themselves attracted to another lady — the reasons for deciding to try a threesome for the first time varies for everyone. But if you’re looking to convince her to have a threesome, see why these seven women decided to add an extra pair legs to their beds: Read more

Why Are So Many Couples Having Threesomes?

If you’ve ever fantasized about having a threesome, you’re not alone. Find out why so many couples are doing more than just fantasizing.

“It’s a fantasy we’ve both had for a while.”

Harriet*, a 24-year-old actress who has been with her boyfriend for four years, recently decided to have a threesome.

While she says the two have always had a great sex life, this is the first time they’ve moved beyond just talking about bringing in a new partner. “His previous partner wasn’t into it, and both of us are still pretty daunted by the idea of actually making it happen,” she says. “But we’re committed to figuring it out.” Read more

How to Find Someone to Have a Threesome With

A reeader asks porn star James Deen how she and her boyfriend can find someone to have a threesome with.

Do you have any advice on initiating a threesome? My boyfriend and I are interested in adding a third into the mix but we’re not really sure how to make it happen, other than posting on a dating site or a skeevy-sounding Craigslist ad. Help! Read more

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