About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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10 Signs a Woman Is Willing to Have a Threesome

A threesome might be one of your fantasies, but what about your wife or girlfriend? These ten signs may indicate that she is as interested as you are.

A threesome is arguably every man’s ultimate fantasy. But making that fantasy a reality is no easy feat. So how can one determine whether the person they’re in a relationship with would ever be open to one? I personally have know idea. That’s why I’ve reached out to somebody who does know.

The person I spoke to was Chris Maxwell Rose, an independent sex educator and one of two founding members of Pleasure Mechanics, a website that serves as a vast electronic library of sexual knowledge, the riches of which are shared through online classes taught by both Rose and her partner. When it comes to threesomes, you could say Rose wrote the book on it. Because, well, she did. Read more

What a Straight Women Learned at an All-Female Sex Party

A straight woman reveals what she learned by attending an all-female sex party.

The first time I saw a dental dam was in eighth-grade health class. The second was at a sex party in New York City’s Lower East Side.

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I never thought I’d go to a sex party. Sex parties, to me, were the sort of in-real-life bacchanalia that you only see in porn. Not really my thing. I mean, I identify as a confident and fairly sexually adventurous woman, but I’m very tame in the sense that my preferences are strictly male and I’m partial to monogamy.

So, why did I go to an upscale, ladies-only play party last weekend? Read more

MFM Threesomes: What to Do with the Other Man

ThreesomeSo you’re a woman who has decided to take part in an MFM threesome. You’re far from alone in your desire to have sex with two men. No matter how much you have fantasized about it, though, the prospect of actually doing may have you feeling a bit nervous. The key is coming up with a list of dos and don’ts to make sure you will satisfy your fantasies while maintaining your boundaries.

It’s important to clarify your desires as well as your boundaries with your threesome partners before the clothes are off, and you’re all in bed together.. For example, if you don’t do anal, now is the time to sy so. Talk to them about what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not, but remember that once you get started, you can totally change your mind. It’s possible that you may be up for more than you thought you would. Continue reading

6 Kinky FFM Threesome Positions

FFM ThreesomeIf you are a beginner to FFM threesomes, the sex positions in my post The 6 Best FFM Threesome Positions are probably where you should start. After awhile, though, you may want to spice things up a bit. One way to do that is by introducing a strap-on dildo to the proceedings. This sex toy can enable the women to experience double penetration, or the man to enjoy the pleasures of pegging. (For more about pegging, see my post Why Do Some Couples Enjoy Bend Over Boyfriend?)  The first three of these six sex positions have one of the women being double penetrated. The last three incorporate pegging. Continue reading

FFM Threesomes: What to Do with the Other Woman

ThreesomeSo you’re a woman who has decided to take part in an FFM threesome, but you may be nervous about what you’ve gotten yourself into. One thing you might be wondering about it is whether you are expected to have lesbian sex with the other woman? the answer is, not if you don’t want to, but if you don’t, you should make that clear beforehand. Unless you’ve said otherwise, your female threesome partner probably expects to hook up with you in some fashion. If you wait until you’re naked in bed together to tell her that you aren’t interested in any sexual interaction with her, she could be disappointed, or even peeved, and that could ruin the threesome for everyone. Continue reading

The 6 Best FFM Threesome Positions

ThreesomeThreesome fantasies are common, and more and more people are acting them out. Many women fantasize about being with two men (See my post The 3 Best Positions for MFM Thressomes.), while the FFM threesome (two women, one man) is the ultimate dream-come-true for men. However, an FFM threesome appeals to a surprising number of women too. It not only allows them to fulfill their man’s fantasy, but it also provides a safe space for women to explore their bi-curious side if they have one. Continue reading

What to Do with the Other Woman During a Threesome

If you’re a woman who isn’t sure what to do with the other woman in a threesome, sexologist Ava Cadell, Ph.D., shares some suggestions.

So you’ve decided to recruit a third party to your no-pants dance. Woo! That is awesome. But now what? (Cue crickets.) Inviting another woman into your bedroom for a threesome is as much about you as it is your guy, but unlike the man in your life, you’ve probably never gotten jiggy with a woman—which puts you at a disadvantage. And if you and the other lady stay focused on him, that doesn’t equal a good time for anyone since it can cause a competitive vibe between women, says sexologist Ava Cadell, Ph.D., founder of Sexpert.com. Read more

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