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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Female Orgasm

Orgasm Tips to Add to Your Sex Life

Close the orgasm gap with these tips you can add to your sex life now.

Here at Refinery29, we don’t believe that any approach to sex is one-size-fits-all. Different techniques work for different people (with different partners, and at different times). That said, we have collected quite a few tried-and-tested tips that sex therapists, sex toy experts, and sex-having people swear can help you reach orgasm (and maybe even orgasms). No, orgasm isn’t the be-all-end-all of sex, but it’s part of the gamut of sexual experience, and a pretty great one at that.

Unfortunately, the orgasm gap is alive and well, and far fewer women than men are reaching climax on a regular basis. It’s true that there are many reasons behind this inequity, from inadequate sex ed to continued, society-wide disregard for women’s sexual satisfaction. To the extent that you can take action to experience the pleasure you’d like, though, you deserve to. That’s why we’re collecting some of our best tips for achieving orgasm here. Click through to review some you may know and discover others you may not have heard, and check back as we continue to add to the list. Read more

What Is a Cervical Orgasm and How Do You Achieve It?

Have you ever had a cervical orgasm or even know what it is? Mike Hatcher reveals the trick to achieving one.

Sexual intercourse and orgasm are two beautiful things that all women should enjoy these days. Commonly referred to as the full body orgasm, the cervical orgasm represents the ultimate pleasure, the supreme form of satisfaction and excitement that a woman can have after a long, intense sex session. Unfortunately, the full body orgasm is not as popular as the two other more common types of orgasm—as a matter of fact, it is so rare that most of the women do not even know it exists, letting alone achieving it! Read more

6 Types of Female Orgasm

Although some sexperts steadfastly maintain that there is only one type of female orgasm, Ashlee Miller describes six types.

If you second-guessed how amazing the female body is, you better get your life. A woman’s body can do the most, including damn near erupting like a human volcano when having an orgasm.

K, let’s cut to the chase: There are way more orgasms than just basic ass vaginal and clitoral. From touching feet to stimulating nipples, here are more ways to experience deep, intense ecstasy. Read more

How to Give a Woman a Blended Orgasm

Vanessa Marin reveals what a blended orgasm is and how to give one to a woman.

If you’ve been known to troll—er, frequent—female-centric websites for insight on getting her off, odds are good you’ve stumbled across something called a “blended orgasm.”

Something of a unicorn in the world of pleasure, the phenomenon seems elusive and mysterious—and we’re betting you sure as hell wanna get your hands on one.

Well, now’s the time to learn. Read more

6 Surprising Beauty Benefits of Orgasm

Orgasms not only feel good, but also make you look good, according Suzannah Weiss.

Orgasms are worth pursuing for their own sake, but it doesn’t hurt to know about the mood, beauty, and health benefits of sex. Its improvements on physical appearance are numerous and even a little surprising. It’s almost as if a lot of the time we spend doing our makeup might as well be spent in the sack.

And while orgasms are awesome (had you heard?), sex researcher Nicole Prause, Ph.D., says they aren’t even required to get the added beauty bonuses of sex: Any level of sexual pleasure or even just arousal can have the same effects.

Here are a few beauty perks that come from an exciting sex life: Read more

Can Orgasms Increase Fertility?

Reaching orgasm may increase chances of conception by 15 percent, according to a new study.

While male orgasms have a link to fertility, until now, female orgasms were considered to occur simply for pleasure.

But new research suggests female orgasms could play a key role in fertility.

The study suggests reaching climax could increase a woman’s chance of conceiving by as much as 15 per cent. Read more

Does Clitoris Size Matter?

Does clitoris size matter when it comes to female orgasm? For women who have problems reaching orgasm, it’s more likely due to location, not size, says Lisa Fogarty.

Since the dawn of time, men have been comparing penis sizes for sport (and, cough, reminding themselves that size doesn’t always matter). Women aren’t immune to comparisons — 1 in 7, according to the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, has actually considered getting the lips of her vagina surgically trimmed. But what about the clitoris, the magical ~love button~ (with over 8,000 nerve endings!) that pushes you to orgasm? Does the size of that matter? Read more

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