A little spanking session in the bedroom is a quick, easy, and affordable way to spice things up, but there are important physical and emotional safety issues.

A little spanking session in the bedroom is a quick, easy, and affordable way to spice things up (look ma, nothing but hands!). But as with anything involving painful pleasure, there are always important safety issues — both physical and emotional — that you should familiarize yourself with first, before you go swatting away like gangbusters. Consider this the kinder, gentler way to spank: Read more

Wishing your sex life was a little more exciting? Follow these moves inspired by Fifty Shades of Grey to add some oomph to your orgasm.

Fifty Shades of Grey has women talking—and thinking—a lot more about sex. But, it also has many of us feeling inferior. A recent Goodinbed.com poll found that 50 percent of people are bored in their relationships, and crave more sexual adventure. So how can you turn your love life into the stuff of fantasy literature, even if your idea of a “playroom” houses your kids’ toys? Read on for 10 moves you’ll want to try ASAP. Feel free to forward them to your guy to get his wheels spinning.. Read more

Domination and submission are coming into the mainstream and out in the open, which means that a lot of men and women must share these desires. What are the psychological underpinnings of domination and submission?

Has spanking gone mainstream? asks Katie Roiphe in a Newsweek cover story in response to all the hype around the Twilight fanfiction slash “mommy porn” bestseller Fifty Shades of Grey. Roiphe notes the coincidence of this trend of women eagerly consuming fantasies of submission at a time when women are “in hard economic terms” less subjugated or dependent by men than before. May it be “that power is not always that comfortable, even for those of us who grew up in it … that equality is something we want only sometimes and in some places and in some arenas …. that power and all of its imperatives can be boring”? Read more

Inspired by the novel Fifty Shades of Grey, Cosmo gives couples ten “kinky iite” sex moves to try.

Blindfold him with his tie and lead him to a spot in the house where you two haven’t gotten it on before. The fact that you’re in total control (since he can’t see a thing) and that he doesn’t know where he is makes it extra hot. Read more

Erotic spanking is a turn-on for many couples, so when you’re not doing it yourself, what could be better than watching a handsome actor spanking the soft bottom of a beautiful actress?  The Frisky has clips from twelve films with sexy spanking scenes. Watch videos

If watching these clips inspires you to want to stage your own spanking scene, my post Bottoms Up! How to give an Erotic Spanking gives couples some pointers to make it hurt so good.

Erotic or sexual spanking is probably the most socially acceptable form of BDSM. In fact, it’s almost mainstream. Fleshbot has posted the top ten amateur spanking videos. If this looks like fun, but you haven’t tried it yet, my post Bottoms Up: How to Give an Erotic Spanking gives some pointers to get started.

We like big butts and we cannot lie. That’s why we have nothing but good thoughts about booty spanking during sex. A little discipline never hurt anyone, especially when it involves sexy women on their knees.

These couples know how to add a little kink to their sex lives, finding a happy medium between pleasure and pain. The women in these videos enjoy every moment of their painful punishment—almost as much as we do. Watch videos