About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Anal Sex

5 Anal Sex Positions You Probably Haven’t Tried

Doggy style is not the only anal sex position – not by a long shot. Jill Hamilton  reveals how to add some variety to your anal sex menu.

Anal sex is a lot like sushi: A few decades ago, the average person might not have taken part in either regularly. Who could’ve predicted the meteoric rise of the booty, or the spicy tuna roll for that matter? (OK, anal sex is also not at all like sushi in practically every other way, but that is not our concern today.)

Whether you’re new to it or whether it’s been on the menu for ages, here are some positions to try, arranged from most entry-level vanilla to more advanced undertakings. Read more

Does Regular Anal Sex Stretch Out Your Sphincter?

Sex therapist Ian Kerner says not to worry, but to be on the safe side, do your Kegels

Whether you’ve tried it or are simply curious about it (or do it all the damn time), the mechanics of anal sex can be…mysterious. Perhaps the biggest question of all: Can backdoor sex do permanent damage to your butt?

That’s a legit concern (because, hello, a very important bodily function happens in that area), so we asked New York City sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First to weigh in. Read more

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9 Things You Need to Know About Anal Sex

If you are interested in trying anal sex, sex experts share nine things you need to know beforehand.

Anal sex may seem taboo, but behind closed doors, plenty of women have tried it: According to a survey published in a 2015 issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, more than 1 in 3 women ages 19 to 44 has tried it at least once. That said, it’s probably not a regular Saturday night thing. But one thing’s clear: Whether you’re curious or a connoisseur, anal sex has become mainstream enough that it’s worth taking time to discuss what to know, what to avoid, and the how-to’s needed to make the experience amazing. Here, sex experts share what you need to know if you’re interested in trying it out. Read more

5 Reasons Men Want to Try Anal Sex

If you’re a woman who doesn’t understand why your boyfriend or husband wants to put his penis into your butt instead of your vagina,  Frank Kobola reveals five reasons that men want to try anal sex.

If I had a nickel for the number of times someone has approached me on the street, grabbed me by the shoulders, and shouted, “FRANK! WHY ARE STRAIGHT MEN SO FIXATED ON ANAL SEX!?!” I wouldn’t have any nickels. Primarily because people don’t ever recognize me on the street, and also because that’s a strange question to lead with. But the point still stands that there’s a male obsession with the butt hole that women, especially women who aren’t into anal stimulation, don’t understand. Here’s why guys are so into it. Read more

 

6 Easy Steps to Maximize Your Backdoor Pleasure

Emily Morse used to keep her backdoor closed, but she has since found that anal sex can be enjoyable if you follow six easy steps.

I used to be one of those “backdoor closed” ladies, shooting suspicious eyes at any friend who claimed to like anal sex. Who was she trying to fool? I had my own fears and worries that prevented me from trying it. It took several years, plus a couple positive backdoor experiences, to show me that anal sex really can be enjoyable.

There is a key to maximizing the pleasure, though. Here are six things to do that will help up the feel-good factor for you: Read more

15 Thoughts Men Have During Anal Sex

So, is this really what men think about anal sex?

Ever wonder what goes through his head (no, not that one) when he’s reaching for the backdoor?  Well, we talked to some guys and found out their thought processes!  Let’s take a look below. Read more

Which Women Are Most Likely to Have Anal Sex?

Finding a woman willing to try anal sex is not totally a roll of the dice, according to a study. There are indicators.

There are plenty of misconceptions out there about anal sex, but the biggest one might be that nobody’s having it: According to the results of a new study, at least one in three straight women in the U.S. has tried anal at some point in her life. Read more

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  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
  • Fox2: Not sure if commenting is working at the moment. Thanks but even though these positions will help maximise my...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: These positions help maximize what you have, whatever that is.
  • Fox: Would these positions help with a penis 4-4.5inches long and around 4inches around? Or do you need to be packing...
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  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
  • Jane Doe: This article not only implies that all men want submissive partners, it tells women to take on a persona....
  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.