About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Anal Sex

11 Anal Foreplay Tips for Beginners

If you’re not ready for full-on anal sex, here are some warm-up exercises from Kathryn Lindsay and Anna Breslaw.

I am about to say something unpleasant but important: The first time you have a finger in your ass, it feels like you have a finger in your ass. What did you think it would feel like?

Actually, the first five, 10, possibly 20 times, it feels like you have a finger in your ass. But at a certain point, if everything goes right, it’ll feel like you have a finger in your ass accompanied by a spontaneous enhanced ~~**~~uNiCoRn oRgAsM~~**~~. It’s hard to know, because everybody’s different, and that includes each butthole-fingerer’s individual skill. “So many women have bad first-time experiences and never want to do it again. Some guy shoved it in without preparing for the action,” explains sexpert Dr. Emily Morse. Read more

10 Surprising Benefits of Anal Sex You Had No Idea About

If you’re unsure about trying anal sex, learning about these ten surprising benefits may help you make up your mind

Anal sex isn’t for everyone. Not surprisingly, there are many more men interested in this sexual act than there are women–for a lot of reasons. But I think the biggest reason women tend to avoid it is because they might not know about all of the surprising benefits.

I know “beneficial” isn’t the first word that pops into your mind when thinking about getting it on via the backdoor. However, there are a lot of misconceptions about anal sex that mark it as kind of taboo, dirty, and something only “sluts” do. Read more

7 Anal Sex Beginner Tips

If you’re thinking of trying anal sex for the first time (or tried it and didn’t like it), here are seven tips for beginners.

Let’s just get this out of the way: anal sex is a major league sex move. It is not for rookies. Despite what you might have heard from friends, your partner, or seen on the internet, anal penetration is not something all people enjoy (which, as it turns out, is true of all sex acts ever). But if you’re thinking about taking the plunge, there are a few anal sex tips for beginners that should, quite frankly, be plastered on looseleaf paper all around town so everyone can get on the same page before they start. Read more

5 Anal Sex Positions You Probably Haven’t Tried

Doggy style is not the only anal sex position – not by a long shot. Jill Hamilton  reveals how to add some variety to your anal sex menu.

Anal sex is a lot like sushi: A few decades ago, the average person might not have taken part in either regularly. Who could’ve predicted the meteoric rise of the booty, or the spicy tuna roll for that matter? (OK, anal sex is also not at all like sushi in practically every other way, but that is not our concern today.)

Whether you’re new to it or whether it’s been on the menu for ages, here are some positions to try, arranged from most entry-level vanilla to more advanced undertakings. Read more

Does Regular Anal Sex Stretch Out Your Sphincter?

Sex therapist Ian Kerner says not to worry, but to be on the safe side, do your Kegels

Whether you’ve tried it or are simply curious about it (or do it all the damn time), the mechanics of anal sex can be…mysterious. Perhaps the biggest question of all: Can backdoor sex do permanent damage to your butt?

That’s a legit concern (because, hello, a very important bodily function happens in that area), so we asked New York City sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First to weigh in. Read more

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9 Things You Need to Know About Anal Sex

If you are interested in trying anal sex, sex experts share nine things you need to know beforehand.

Anal sex may seem taboo, but behind closed doors, plenty of women have tried it: According to a survey published in a 2015 issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, more than 1 in 3 women ages 19 to 44 has tried it at least once. That said, it’s probably not a regular Saturday night thing. But one thing’s clear: Whether you’re curious or a connoisseur, anal sex has become mainstream enough that it’s worth taking time to discuss what to know, what to avoid, and the how-to’s needed to make the experience amazing. Here, sex experts share what you need to know if you’re interested in trying it out. Read more

5 Reasons Men Want to Try Anal Sex

If you’re a woman who doesn’t understand why your boyfriend or husband wants to put his penis into your butt instead of your vagina,  Frank Kobola reveals five reasons that men want to try anal sex.

If I had a nickel for the number of times someone has approached me on the street, grabbed me by the shoulders, and shouted, “FRANK! WHY ARE STRAIGHT MEN SO FIXATED ON ANAL SEX!?!” I wouldn’t have any nickels. Primarily because people don’t ever recognize me on the street, and also because that’s a strange question to lead with. But the point still stands that there’s a male obsession with the butt hole that women, especially women who aren’t into anal stimulation, don’t understand. Here’s why guys are so into it. Read more

 

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