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Better Fellatio: 3 Steps to a Perfect Climax

If you are a woman who enjoys performing fellatio on your man, you’re probably also interested in ways to make it even better for him. If your man climaxes from oral sex, you’re already doing something right, but did you know that his orgasm can be less enjoyable, if you don’t finish him off the right way? To bring  your man to a perfect climax whenever you give him oral sex, be sure to follow these three steps to make his orgasm as intense and pleasurable as possible:

1) Keep his penis in your mouth. The pressure, warmth, and wetness of your mouth is what got his penis ready to explode, so finish what you started. If you take it out before the grand finale, the finale may not be so grand. You should be able to tell when a man is about to ejaculate by the stiffening of his penis and lifting of his testicles. When this happens, taking as much of his penis into your mouth as you can will maximize his pleasure during orgasm. The explosiveness of his semen shooting into your mouth can sometimes be a little overwhelming, but it’s also kind of exciting knowing that you caused it.

2) Don’t stop what you’re doing! If your man is ready to ejaculate, keep doing whatever you were doing that got him to that point. That’s what will take him over the edge.  Experimenting and variety are great, but as the moment of orgasm approaches, keep the pressure on and the rhythm going (which is why you shouldn’t take his penis out of your mouth). You should be pumping fast and furiously with your mouth (and your hand if you can’t move fast enough with your mouth). If he wants you to do something else, he’ll tell you, but if it feels like he’s ready to climax, don’t stop what you’re doing until he finishes.

3) Swallow. His penis is paying you a compliment when it ejaculates. When finally presented to a woman after all her efforts, semen should be accepted… savored… and swallowed. It’s your reward for a job well done. Also, continuing to suck through the orgasm – “sucking him dry” – leaves him both physically and emotionally satisfied. To make it even better for him,  let him see that you are swallowing. If you don’t mind looking a bit slutty, let some of  his semen slide out between your lips and then suck it back in and swallow it. A brilliant smile at this moment will be appreciated. (If you’re not a swallower yet, my post 7 Tips for Swallowing Semen gives women suggestions for learning this essential oral sex skill.)

While they say that getting there is half the fun, that means that the other half is the destination. An exciting conclusion makes the journey complete. If you bring your man to a perfect climax whenever you give him oral sex, you will keep him captivated and coming back for more… from YOU!

All women know that men LOVE oral sex, but not all women know how to do it properly. Giving good fellatio is NOT just about opening your mouth and bobbing up and down. To find out what every woman needs to know about giving her man oral pleasure, click here!

11 Responses to Better Fellatio: 3 Steps to a Perfect Climax

  • Jim says:

    If only all women had your open-minded views and attitudes! How many men wish they were with a woman who enjoyed giving head and swallowing!You are a model for all!

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    I know for a fact that I’m far from the only woman who feels this way. A female reader suggested this article.

  • Jeff says:

    what thoughts run through your mind the moment right before and during ejaculation into your mouth?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    Something along the lines of “Get ready” or “Here it comes,” before, and “OMG” (for a big load) or “Ummm” (for a tasty one) during, might go through my mind, though it varies depending on the man and the situation.

  • jim says:

    Do you ever have to concerntrate on swallowing,rather than pulling back, or does it come naturally?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    It comes naturally now.

  • jim says:

    I can only imagine that makes your partner happy!

  • Eammon says:

    My wife of 35 years recently started doing this. It is fantastic. Words cannot describe the feeling I have when she does. I suppose I could be mad and ask why she didnt do it when we first married. That doesnt matter. The fact is she does now and it is great

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    That’s great to hear, Eammon! I hope she also enjoys doing it, too.

  • Jeff says:

    From a woman’s perspective, what does an explosive ejaculation feel like into the mouth? Are the contractions felt in the penis feel more intense in men that are more explosive?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    You feel a sharp splat of semen with each of the first spurts. If the shaft is inside the mouth and your tongue is against the underside, the spasms are felt strongly, especially when the amount of semen ejaculated is large. There are also usually more spasms with an explosive ejaculation, so the excitement goes on longer – for both you and him.

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