About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Svetlana Ivanova

Fellatio from a Female Perspective

deep-throat“Graze on my lips; and if those hills be dry, stray lower, where the pleasant fountains lie.”– William Shakespeare

Fellatio is the act of applying your lips and mouth to a man’s penis with the purpose of giving him pleasure. Fellatio, giving head, blow job – call it what you wish – is seldom discussed as an expression of female sexual empowerment, but rather as a form of male dominance. Taking a man’s penis in our mouths is traditionally seen as an act of submission. It is assumed we do it against our will.

However, fellatio can not only give a man immense pleasure, but can also be extremely empowering for a woman. I view the fellatio as a form of male surrender, something requiring a mutual degree of trust and self-restraint. Continue reading

Coitus Interruptus Erroneous: Pulling Out Actually Works

Withdrawal is one of the oldest forms of birth control. We’ve been taught that coitus interruptus is not effective. However, new research shows that it could be as effective as using a condom if done correctly.

Coitus interruptus, withdrawal, pulling out, raw dog. Of all the names ascribed to the intimate act that is a man removing his penis from his partner’s vagina before orgasm, the terminology that best encapsulates the public’s perception of it is “Pull and Pray.” As in, pull out and pray you don’t have a baby. As a form of birth control, the method is largely regarded as ill-thought out — the last resort of hasty teenagers with access to the family car and several cans of beer. In short, it doesn’t work. Except that it probably does.

A recent study conducted by Rachel Jones, senior research associate at the Guttmacher Institute, asserts that research shows the withdrawal method is almost as effective as condoms when used correctly. Read more

Mr. Perfect Made Easy: 23 Ways to Be the Man She Wants

Tip 4: No polyester sheets. Easy enough, right? Sarah Miller tells Men’s Health readers what else women want.

1. You can put down the weights and the protein shakes. You might want us to be perfect looking; we simply want you not to be fat.

2. Replace all of those hideous size-extra-large T-shirts with something that actually sort of fits. We think you might be a medium.

3. Never allow anyone who listens to baseball on the radio to cut your hair.

4. Purchase sheets that don’t contain polyester and that are white. Read more

Why Women Fake It

Men’s Fitness claims a woman’s inability to orgasm is due to two reasons. (Spoilt describes how faking orgasm feels for a woman.) Typically, both reasons lay the blame on the woman for her inability to orgasm and not on the more likely culprit – her selfish or clueless male partner.

Our recent sex poll found that up to 80% of women have trouble achieving an orgasm. What gives? Most likely, there’s one of two reasons she may not be having as much fun as she claims to be. Fix ’em — and you’ll both benefit. Read more

13 Simple Tips for a Better Sex Life

Never in the mood? Prevention magazine’s 13 simple tips for a better sex life will have you craving more.

Can you remember the last time you couldn’t wait to get home and shimmy between the sheets?

Was it last week, last month? Last… year? We get it: Sometimes it’s easier to give into your excuses — I’m too tired, let’s just do it this weekend, it doesn’t even feel that great to begin with. But we don’t need to tell you that sex is essential for a healthy marriage — and also a healthy you. Research shows that a happy sex life can stamp out stress, reduce heart disease risk, and even improve immunity. But enough of the non-sexy talk. Try just one of these libido-lifting tricks today. You can thank us later. Read more

What's It Like to Have a Penis?

Probably every woman has wondered what it’s like to have a penis. At Good Vibrations Magazine, John Thursday reveals the true penis story.

What’s it like to have a penis? I get asked that a lot, and not always by women.

There’s no single answer. My relationship with my dangling self, like all healthy relationships, has evolved over time. We have grown and changed together, staying up late, swapping stories.

I must say it is undeniably fun to have a penis. It’s like walking around with your own amusement park ride.

But the relationship is not entirely fluid. Having survived 34 years so far I can attest to three distinct phases; and so, three distinct rides. Read more

5 Public Sex Positions

When the urge hits, and you don’t have time to make it back indoors before the clothes are off, Jasmine Leigh suggests some sex positions to use, depending on the location.

Public space is there for all to utilize, so it is your duty as a responsible citizen to make good use of these areas. Summer is a great time for getting your gear off in the great outdoors and making the most of the warmth, and what better way to do that then with public sex positions like the ones listed below?

Pig in a Blanket

Locale: Best suited to public parks and beaches. Read more

Recent Comments

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