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Analingus: The Dark Kiss

PleasureAnalingus, also known as anilingus, the “dark kiss,” or rimming, is oral stimulation of the anus. For many people, analingus is a sensuous experience, both on the giving and the receiving end. Some say there is nothing as arousing as having a warm, soft tongue and lips stimulating them in such an intimate area, and those who love to give it find the experience equally as arousing. Because the anus is packed with sensitive nerve endings, analingus can produce exquisite, erotic sensations.

Analingus can also be a great introduction to the sensation of anal stimulation For men and women who enjoy being anally penetrated, analingus is a delicious tease for the main course to come, and for men who are apprenensive about anal penetration, with analingus they can comfortably experience anal stimulation to see if they might like it.

Cleanliness is even more of a issue with analingus than with genital oral sex. Taking a bath or shower together is a relaxing form of foreplay and will allow your partner to get squeaky clean. You or your partner should thoroughly soap the butt and anus, inserting a finger into the rectum, and rinsing thoroughly with warm water.

The easiest position for analingus is with the receiver on all fours. This way you can gently spread their butt cheeks with your hands, and see everything clearly as you dip your tongue in and out. Doggie-style licking also provides a erotic rear view, and allows you to squeeze, rub, and pull on other areas as you lick. Those receivers with lower back pain or mobility issues can compensate by lying on their stomachs with pillows under their hips, comfortably raising their butts for easy licking.

Begin analingus by gently kissing and licking their butt cheeks as they slope inwards toward the crack. Work your way closer into the furrow, taking your time to let them get used to the sensation, or to tease them if you know they like it. You can have your partner reach back and pull their own butt cheeks apart, which will greatly help you and make it less tiring and easier for you to lick.

You can make your first contact with the anus in several ways:

  • Kiss the anus directly.
  • With the tip of your tongue, lightly lick in a circle around the rim of the anal opening – “rimming” it.
  • Lick the entire furrow with a flattened tongue from top to bottom like an ice cream cone.
  • Press your flattened tongue against the opening and hold it there, and then slowly start to move it in an up-and-down or an in-and-out massage.

You should try all of these to see what they your partner likes. Since different people like different techniques, experiment with the ones below also to see which ones your partner enjoys the most.

  • Gently flick the tip of the tongue across the outer rim of the anus.
  • Push your tongue against the anus, and then remove it, as though you were ringing a doorbell.
  • Use your tongue to lick completely across the anus.
  • Insert your tongue as far into the anus as you can, then probe around with the tip. After some gentle probing, the sphincter muscles should begin to relax and allow deeper exploration.

Most people won’t orgasm by analingus alone, so you should keep it fairly brief or keep them stimulated in some other way at the same time. Whether analingus is the main course, a spicy side dish, or an appetizer for anal penetration. if both partners approach it with openness and enthusiasm, they will be rewarded with unequaled enjoyment.

My book Anal Sex Secrets is a guide to great anal sex for both anal sex beginners and for couples who are searching for new things to try. To find out more about it, click here.

7 Responses to Analingus: The Dark Kiss

  • jeena says:

    Sex is spooooooooooooooooooooooooooo……………………
    You should live for thatttttttttttttt……..
    Yo Yo

  • Stephanie says:

    Analingus is one of those things many women can’t enjoy because they can’t get past what the act entails. Only when we remove these mental blocks can we truly enjoy things like this.

  • steve says:

    People think it is gross but Analingus on a woman is actually beautiful in other ways too. When her anus is clean from a bath, the sweet clean musk and lubrication glands inside of the anus soon begin to make their clear sweet lube again. The ring of musk glands in a womans bottom taste like fresh vanilla when she is clean. It sounds “wrong” but it is so light and wonderful when you only taste this place on the girl you love. The peaky climaxes are unreal for her once your tongue is in.

  • steve says:

    (and, in my opinion, as a part of mfm sex) — Deeply licking, and kissing a woman’s anus is also a very important (relaxation) part of mfm as well. Whether or not anal intercourse will actually happen. But as a relaxation prelude for the dp act i think it is really kinky. (if it is my girl, I would want to smear my kisses all over her sweet bottom before I made her go through with that!!!) yeah, it’s gross. but it doesnt hurt you, and it feels ultra-awesome~!!!

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    Analingus is fun and pleasurable regardless of whether anal intercourse follows. It not only feels good, but it also gives a woman the feeling of being totally accepted.

  • steve says:

    When she is alll clean like that, I like to hint to her I will do this; … then I smell her bottom to tell her how sweet and clean (AND PERFECT) she is followed by tiny light kisses, the farther away from her anus the better (outside edge of the brown part). Hold her asshole spread open and do this part. The closer to center you get, the more perfect you have to make her feel! I treat her anus like I am painting kinky-ass caveman art in and alllll along that sweet brown asshole skin. Kiss the sweet brown pigment! Sometimes, stop, and do big flat tongue all across the brown pigment. I cannot believe I have not died from being back there too much. Sometimes, I like to lick her anus in a doggy position, enter her vagina, with my thumb (print side down) massage the G-Spot with thumb. At same time, I like to climax her by giving her really good anal stimulation on the outside and the inside together. Her anus can be like her clit for some types of masturbation. Yes, Svetlana, to some degree – I like to give her analingus (alone) more than I enjoy anal intercourse! Because of the sounds it makes in her voice. She goes higher in a better way, and she stays high a really long time. The whole time I lick it. It is such an addictive rush, I agree.

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