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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.
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Anal Sex from a Female Perspective

Anal sex is one of the most erotic and satisfying sexual practices a woman and her partner can enjoy. Anal sex is a different, tighter sensation than vaginal sex. The rectum, once it’s ready, literally swallows the penis up and can’t get enough. If the clitoris and/or vagina are stimulated while your man is inside you, it can take you to another sexual realm. It’s pretty intense, no matter what, and the increased tightness back there makes it just that much better.

I still faithfully follow the 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex to ensure that the experience will be pleasurable rather than painful. Oral sex or even intercourse helps me to relax and feel at ease before engaging in anal sex. Something that really helps me to relax the anal sphincters is my partner rubbing my butt cheeks softly, spreading them, and then squeezing them together. That and him teasing my anus very slowly with his fingers and tongue makes sure I’m very ready.

As for positions, though doggie-style may be the most popular anal sex position, missionary position (man on top, woman on bottom) allows me to fully relax my anus, making penetration much easier. I describe my favorite variations in 3 Great Anal Sex Positions.

I like my partner to go very slowly while inserting his penis into me. First of all, it allows the anal sphincters to gradually adjust. Secondly, I love the erotic sensation of gradually being filled by his penis. It feels like I’m swallowing him. I really like to control the pace by being the one to slowly push back on him at the pace I’m ready to take him.

Anal penetration is an entirely different feeling than vaginal penetration. There’s a lot more pressure just before actual penetration. First, there’s an intense feeling of pressure as the head presses against you, which builds up a feeling of anticipation. Then there’s a release of pure pleasure as the head slips through. You really notice the change in diameter as the head moves inside. You feel the length of the shaft sliding in with every nerve ending you can imagine. If you’re relaxed enough, it feels amazing when he gets through the second sphincter.

One of the most exquisite sensations for me of anal sex is when he pulls out and then slides back in the first time. The in-stroke is intensely sensual. I love slow at first, but there comes a point where I want to him to speed up and just take me hard and fast. It’s then that I feel completely full. The sensation is very different from having him in my vagina. Everything is so very tight, and the pressure is what causes the pleasure. The anal passage is being stimulated while at the same time there is pressure on my G-spot through the wall of the vagina.

I can orgasm rather quickly after penetration, especially since I usually rub my clitoris once he’s inside me. it’s an amazing feeling to squeeze my partner’s penis as my anal muscles contract around him. I usually climax so hard and squeeze him so tightly that he has a hard time moving because the sensation is so intense for him. If he stays inside me after I’ve had one orgasm, I can usually have another although I prefer to return to a slower pace for a while until we build up again. When he ejaculates, it’s much better because I can actually feel him shoot whereas, vaginally, I usually can’t.

Anal sex can feel absolutely incredible. It’s different in sensation – it’s deep inside, it’s not the clitoris, and isn’t in the vagina, but feels strangely like both in a sort of mixed-up combination in another part of the body. It doesn’t feel like anything else you may have felt before. Women who don’t enjoy anal sex are probably doing it wrong.

My book Anal Sex Secrets is a guide to great anal sex for both anal sex beginners and for couples who are searching for new things to try. To find out more about it, click here.

8 Responses to Anal Sex from a Female Perspective

  • Caitlin MacKenna says:

    In some ways, anal sex feels similar to vaginal penetration – in others completely different. I think it feels more intense in some ways, but it isn’t the same quality of sensation as vaginal penetration. I get a huge amount of pleasure from the feel of something sliding in and out of you back there, but I I like it best combined with clitoral stimulation of some sort.

  • Jen D says:

    Hey S;

    I love it when you post sex advice based on your own sexual experiences. I am a avid reader of yours and I enjoy your perspective on topics such as this article. I just wanted to tell you that I admire your work and I truly enjoy reading your blogs.

    -keep up the good work

    Jen D

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    Thanks, Jen. I appreciate the compliment.

  • Jen D says:

    Hey S, how are you?

    Thank you so much for your quick response even though I never really asked you to acknowledge my note, it shows that you really care about your fans. It was nice to hear from you and because of your hospitality, I would like to extend to you some of my work. I greatly appreciate any constructive criticism or feedback because I value your opinion.

    your fan

    Jen D


  • fozia butt says:

    having anal sexperince is nice. i have a few time but feel pain. having small hole. what i do now

  • Question says:

    Hi, your articles are surely interesting! I have some questions though:

    1. You mentioned you usually can feel his shoot in anal sex, so I assume that means he doesn’t wear a condom. Is that safe for him and you?

    2. How do you deal with the smell? Cause I imagine it will smell poop…

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    It’s safe if neither of you has an STD. My post 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex answers your second question.

  • steve says:

    … and , if there is a tiny little bit of poo — – from a guy’s perspective – it isnt nasty. It is just a natural thing that happens with anal sex. It can be kinda cute. The erotic part, is that an anal sex partner should be someone extremely monogomas with you. Very “Exclusive”~! Then, the dirty part of it (what barely little dirty is left after pratcing good hygiene!) the dirty part then can actually become erotic. You both grow an immidiate immunity to “anal” bugs around one another, when you slowly get into anal kissing and all.

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