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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.
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Anal Sex for Beginners

analFor many people, anal sex is the ultimate taboo. Many people are attracted to it precisely because it’s so taboo and mysterious. Others haven’t tried it yet and are curious.

What Is Anal Sex?

Anal sex is the act of placing a finger, an erect penis, or object into the anus of another person to give and receive sexual pleasure. Some people also enjoy oral stimulation of the anus, known as analingus or rimming.

Does Anal Sex Hurt?

Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you’re doing it wrong. With enough lubricant and enough patience, it’s entirely possible to enjoy anal sex as a safe and fulfilling part of your sex life. If you follow these 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex, you can ensure that your first anal sex experience is pleasurable rather than painful.

Why Try Anal Sex?

For men and women, anal sex is a different, tighter sensation, it’s a little bit naughty, and it provides some variety to normal sex. The anus and the rectum are sensitive areas. There are a wealth of muscles and nerve endings around the anus, and the right kind of touch can feel fantastic. A woman’s G-spot can also be stimulated indirectly through anal play as well, and anal orgasms are possible. Anal Sex from Female Perspective describes the erotic sensations a woman feels during anal penetration.

Anal Sex for Men

All men have a prostate gland that can be reached through the rectum. Many men have orgasms just from pressure on the prostate. Prostate Massage for the Ultimate Male Orgasm explains how to massage a man’s prostate for his sexual pleasure. Some couples are even exploring male penetration by the female partner with a strap-on dildo, a sexual practice known as Bend Over Boyfriend or pegging.

As more and more of us explore various pleasure zones throughout ours and our lovers’ bodies, the anus has received the attention it so richly deserves. In spite of (or is it because of) the pervasive taboo, anal eroticism can become an important part of your sex life, whether as a main course or an appetizer.

My book Anal Sex Secrets is a guide to great anal sex for both anal sex beginners and for couples who are searching for new things to try. To find out more about it, click here.

4 Responses to Anal Sex for Beginners

  • Steve says:

    Congratulations on the move to your own domain. I run my own blog in my own domain. I know what a chore moving can be :). I like the new look and feel too.

    The taboos regarding anal sex are interesting. Exploring anal sex can certainly teach you that as a human being you can hold two contradictory beliefs at the same time. You can completely go to the moon from the pleasure, believe that anal sex is perfectly okay and still have some head trips about it.

    I guess that is true of sex in general. Many people say there is nothing wrong with it but most cultures act in the exact opposite way.

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    Thanks. With over 900 posts, I still have a lot of work to do to get all the links re-directed to this blog rather than the WordPress.com blog, but I’m going to do it the same way you eat an elephant: one bite at a time.

    Taboos about sex practices between consenting adults are used to control people at their most basic, biological level. Theocracies and dictatorships are the most puritanical societies.

  • Steve says:

    Taboos about sex practices between consenting adults are used to control people at their most basic, biological level. Theocracies and dictatorships are the most puritanical societies.

    I agree 100%, but I don’t think that is the whole story. I think anything that makes people feel strongly is going to be a catalyst for fear and confused sets of beliefs.

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