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5 Ways to Make Anal Sex Better for Her

Satisfied CoupleAnal sex is enjoyable for men because the tight anal sphincter rings provide strong sensations to a thrusting penis. However, there is more to anal sex than just “in and out.”  If anal sex is not enjoyable to your partner, she is not going to want to do it in the future. There are several things you can do to make anal sex better for her so that she can enjoy it too.

One is to first loosen her up. You can finger her, or you can perform analingus on her. If you’re going to finger her, begin by working a single, lubed finger into her anus and see how she reacts. Then try two.  If you’re feeling adventurous and so is she, try three. Don’t move the fingers in and out too much. Just let your partner get used to idea of having something inside of her.

Once she feels comfortable, try slipping just your penis head inside of her. As you feel it slip in, stop and hold it there for a while. After your partner adjusts. push in a little more. If you see your partner wince. then stop and hold it there. Pull out just a little if she needs you to. By entering her this way, you should eventually be able to get most, if not all, of your penis inside of her.  By the way, slipping the penis head in and out of your partner’s anus can be a wonderful way to tease. (My post The Teasing Penetration Anal Sex Technique goes into more detail about this.)

Once you are inside her, use long strokes for the maximum amount of pleasure for her. A lot of men tend to stick their penis inside their partner, and just use quick, short strokes. Speaking from personal experience, I really enjoy feeling a man’s shaft slowly sliding in and out of me. Save the quick, short strokes when you’re ready to have your orgasm.

Even anal sex can get routine. Nothing kills pleasure like boredom. If you’re used to only one or two positions, consider trying new ones. (If you need ideas, see my posts 3 Great Anal Sex Positions and The 3 Best Anal Sex Positions for Intimacy.) You can also try locations outside the bedroom. Bending her over a sofa or the kitchen table can make anal sex new and exciting again. Having anal sex in a public place where you could get caught (but hopefully won’t) is also a turn-on for many couples.

Anal sex can be even more enjoyable – not to mention frequent – for men if their partners are equally enthusiastic. By trying one or more of the above five ways to make anal sex better for her, you can increase her enjoyment. You can be sure that a woman who enjoys anal sex is going to want it more often.

My book Anal Sex Secrets is a guide to great anal sex for both anal sex beginners and for couples who are searching for new things to try. To find out more about it, click here.

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