4 Reasons I Don’t Hook Up with Readers
It will soon be five years since I started Sex Secrets. During that time, I have answered countless comments and questions from readers, and among those questions and comments have been propositions from male readers to have sex with them. To many men, this probably seems like a perfectly natural thing to do. What does it matter that they don’t know me, and I don’t know them? From reading my blog, it’s obvious that I like sex, so why wouldn’t I want to have sex with them? Several reasons, actually, none of which really have anything to do with them personally.
The first and foremost reason that I don’t hook up with readers is that I don’t need to. Believe it or not, men I already know, like, and trust are willing to have sex with me. Go figure. Anyway, hooking up with strangers from the internet isn’t necessary for me to get laid.
Another reason is that, even if I weren’t getting any, the percentages are against me when hooking up with a stranger from the internet because, the fact is, a lot of men are not that good at sex. I’m sure the same can be said of women, but when women are bad at sex, the man still usually has an orgasm. For women,, bad sex can cause not only boredom and frustration, but sometimes pain or discomfort as well. Yes, you may be the exception, especially if you’re a regular reader of Sex Secrets, but from my point of view, what are the chances that sex with a stranger from the internet is going to be better than what I’m already getting? Too low to be worth the time and effort, not to mention the risk.
Speaking of risk, hooking up with strangers from the internet is potentially dangerous. Although most men aren’t dangerous, it just takes one. I’ve had a couple of scary encounters with men I barely knew who turned from Dr. Jekyll into Mr. Hyde right before my eyes. They taught me to be much more cautious about having sex with strangers. Internet hook-ups are just not worth the risk to me, especially when I don’t need them to get laid, and the sex probably wouldn’t be that great anyway.
Finally, for me, just the fact that a man is trolling the internet propositioning women he doesn’t even know for sex doesn’t speak highly of him as a potential sex partner. It makes me think that he propositions strangers because the women who actually know him don’t want to have sex with him, either because of his looks or personality, or because they tried it and didn’t like it. I assume that they know something I don’t know and don’t want to find out.
If you seriously want to get get laid, don’t hit on a fantasy woman from the internet. You have a lot better chance of scoring with a woman who’s already in your life somehow – your upstairs neighbor, the woman you see jogging in the park every morning, or the waitress who takes your order on your lunch hour Monday through Friday. They aren’t fantasy women. They’re real, and they’re right in front of your nose.
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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. My sexual history and preferences are detailed in my post 
November 22nd, 2011 at 11:29 pm
Wonderful post!
November 23rd, 2011 at 7:23 am
Thanks, Alexandra! I read your post on the same topic, and I think we’re on the same page, so to speak :).