About Me
I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.
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100 Things About Me Sexually

I posted my original version of this list almost four years ago. It was a snapshot of my sexual attitudes, feelings, and preferences at that point in time. Some of those have changed since then, however, so I decided to update my list.

  1. I lost my virginity when I was 15,
  2. But it wasn’t until my senior year of high school that I really started experimenting sexually.
  3. That’s when I had my first anal sex experience,
  4. And my first MFM threesome.
  5. I’ve slept in the nude off and on since I was a teenager.
  6. When I don’t, I wear panties.
  7. I go commando sometimes, but not very often.
  8. Same thing with going braless – once in awhile, but not very often.
  9. I feel really sexy wearing stiletto heels,
  10. But I don’t wear them often enough for them to be really comfortable.
  11. I love going naked,
  12. But I don’t like clothed people staring at me when I am.
  13. And the problem with nudist clubs and resorts is that they tend to be full of old people.
  14. The most exquisite sensation of sexual intercourse is when the head first pushes past the lips into my vagina.
  15. The most exquisite sensation in anal sex is when he pulls out and then slides back in the first time.
  16. The in-stroke is intensely sensual.
  17. I usually can’t feel it when a man ejaculates into my vagina,
  18. Though I can always feel him shoot into my anus.
  19. My favorite vaginal sex position is the Pelvic Slide.
  20. My second favorite is missionary with raised legs.
  21. My favorite anal sex position is lying on my back.
  22. My second favorite is lying on my stomach with my hips raised a little on a pillow.
  23. I’m pinned down, so I just relax and let him do me.
  24. I hate professional porn,
  25. Though I like some amateur porn.
  26. When it doesn’t try to imitate professional porn.
  27. For one thing, I don’t get “cumshots.”
  28. If a man pulled out of me and started jacking off, I’d kick him out of bed.
  29. Nothing is more exciting to me than the moment when a man’s penis stiffens and his balls tighten during fellatio,
  30. Except maybe feeling his semen shooting and splashing inside my mouth.
  31. Swallowing has always seemed to me like the natural conclusion to sucking a penis.
  32. It’s my reward for a job well done.
  33. I can’t help it, but a man who shoots a big load seems to be more of a stud to me than a man who shoots a small one.
  34. I like thick, creamy semen better than thin, watery semen.
  35. I know the reasoning behind semen retention in Tantra,
  36. But I feel cheated when a man doesn’t ejaculate during sex.
  37. Deep throating a penis while I lick his scrotum is a power trip,
  38. And irrumatio isn’t just pleasurable for the man either.
  39. Lying back and letting a man slide is penis in and out of your throat can be very sensual.
  40. Since I don’t have one, penises fascinate me.
  41. I especially lovebig penises.
  42. Long, thin penises, however,  can be the worst of both worlds.
  43. They can bump your cervix, which sometimes hurts,
  44. And they don’t fill you up the way a thick penis does.
  45. I enjoy the sensation of having something large stretch and fill my vagina.
  46. My orgasms are more intense when my vagina is filled to capacity. .
  47. MFM threesomes are as intense as it gets sexually.
  48. I love double penetration,
  49. Though I haven’t been double penetrated as often as I’d like to have been,
  50. Because arranging an MFM threesome isn’t as easy as you’d think.
  51. Using a sex toy for double penetration is just not as exciting as two penises.
  52. I’ve never had all three holes filled at once,
  53. Because I’ve never been with three men at once.
  54. I’ve never had an FMF threesome either,
  55. Although I have been in foursomes.
  56. Sex between the women seems to be expected in FMF threesomes,
  57. But the men in MFM threesomes have never engaged in any man-on-man action.
  58. I have always thought women’s bodies were sexy.
  59. I’ve even admitted to being a boobiesexual.
  60. I thought I had satisfied my bi-curiosity in college,
  61. And for a long time, that’s all I thought it had been.
  62. It turns out that it may have been more than just curiosity.
  63. Female ejaculation still kind of freaks me out.
  64. Because it’s not supposed to be possible.
  65. I enjoy rough sex, but not too rough.
  66. Spanking is about as rough as it gets for me.
  67. Being bent over a knee and spanked hard is a big turn-on.
  68. I like having my hair pulled and my butt slapped in doggy-style, too.
  69. I’m not really very kinky.
  70. Though I had sex on South Beach once.
  71. Threesomes aren’t kinky, are they?
  72. The best thing I ever did for myself sexually was to follow a program of PC muscle exercises.
  73. I know my strong PC muscles are the reason I have orgasms with intercourse.
  74. And the look on a man’s face as I milk his penis with my vaginal muscles is priceless.
  75. Men love the vaginal squeeze even better than deep throat.
  76. I don’t have sexual dreams very often,
  77. Or at least not dreams that I recognize as sexual.
  78. I’ve never been sexually assaulted,
  79. Though I have had some scary moments with men I didn’t know well.
  80. I have done things sexually that I didn’t really want to do at the time,
  81. Or do with that particular man.
  82. But that’s just part of life.
  83. You go along to get along sometimes.
  84. Since high school, my longest sexual dry spell has been six weeks.
  85. I can always get laid if I want to,
  86. Though not necessarily laid well.
  87. It took a while before I could tell the difference.
  88. Nowadays, I’d rather have no sex at all than bad sex,
  89. But lately I haven’t had to make that choice.
  90. A woman doesn’t have to be skilled at sex.
  91. Being willing and enthusiastic is enough for most men.
  92. However, skills make a woman memorable.
  93. Even now, I’m still proud of myself when a man climaxes during sex with me.
  94. Is there any bigger disappointment than when your partner can’t get an erection?
  95. It’s even worse than premature ejaculation.
  96. At least then you get to enjoy the moment of penetration.
  97. A lot of men seem to think that I blog to find sex partners.
  98. In fact, I never hook up with readers.
  99. Casual sex can be fun,
  100. But sex with friends and lovers is the best.

25 Responses to 100 Things About Me Sexually

  • Adonis says:

    That’s thoughtful for updating this Svetlana. Followed some of the differences between this post and your older one, e.g. I take it you are not into fisting or pegging anymore?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    No, those were fun to try, but I lost interest in pegging, particularly. It didn’t really fit my personality.

  • eammon says:

    Have you ever had sex with a man that lost his testicles due to cancer? If so, did it make you feel different or uncomfortable? Do you think he is incomplete?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    No, I never have.

  • eammon says:

    Thank you. I wasnt sure but thought I would ask. As you can tell, I am the person. It has affected the way I feel and confidence in bed.

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    I’m sure it would. I don’t really know anything about the condition, so I can’t really say how to approach it.

  • Adonis says:

    Not sure what to think of pegging either. Perhaps it depends on the couple’s approach to it e.g. as sensual/loving or dominating, and whether the woman in the relationship is the one pushing for it ;)

    Its good you know where you stand :)

  • steph says:

    is this your site, Svetlana ? i write with a somewhat silly question, but can’t really ask mom nor dad ! my boyfriend of 6 weeks has asked me to start sucking him. i happily agreed, but he very recently says that i should swallow his load when he “pops”. is swallowing semen the standard these days ? also, how do i drink something that is SO slimy & gooey ?! do i have the option to say ‘no’ ? would love advice or help. thank you. Steph
    p.s. what is ‘pegging’ ?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    Hi Steph,
    Swallowing is the standard these days, though you certainly have the option to say no. I think you should swallow though. My post 7 Tips for Swallowing Semen has been very popular, and a lot of women have found it helpful. Once you’ve started swallowing, you may even find it addictive :).

    Pegging is a sex act in which a female uses a strap-on dildo to anally penetrate a male.

  • date safe says:

    I hate professional porn too. They seem unrealistic. LOL!

  • Dima says:

    Hi Sveta,

    I find it hard to believe you have never been with three men before, or moreso, that you’re having difficulty finding three appropriate men for the task. Ever been to New York? There are some very sensual, passionate, open minded men here :-)

  • Ron says:

    Hello sweetness, is there a chance of you posting a larger image of yourself?


  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    No. Sex Secrets is an informational blog, not a personal blog.

  • Greg says:

    Thanks for your great advice and links!
    How often do you get your big turn-on: “Being bent over a knee and spanked hard”

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    Not often now. It depends on my partner at the time.

  • Herbert says:

    Thank you so much.
    Its nice to see that there are women out there helping other women.

  • Saskia says:

    Hi Svetlana,

    I really enjoyed reading some of your articles.

    Some questions though… You’ve never done an fmf. Does that mean that for example the article on double blowjobs was written by somebody else? Or that you got the tips from people who have done that?

    Take care,


  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    No, it means that I don’t consider a double blow job to be an FMF threesome if it’s just a blow job. I guess it is in a way, but I didn’t think of it that way.

  • ron says:

    svetlana i want to have sex with you
    are u ready

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:
  • Scott says:

    Hey svetlana,
    I had a quick question for you since you seem very knowledgeable!
    My girlfriend and I wanted to try anal sex, so I started to warm her up to the idea in bed and when I started to put my finger in her butthole she loved the pennitration but couldn’t handle it when I would pull my finger out. Is there any tricks or ways to get her over the “grossness” of pulling out?


  • tanner says:

    Hi im 17 years old and sill a virgin. ive been sexually active for about 6 years now. ive come close to having sex but its never happened. any tips on how to have sex for the first time?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    My “Articles” page has two articles with sex tips for virgins.

  • Sam says:

    Hey there,
    I have some questions. I have been with the same guy three years and he has been my only sex partner I’ve ever had. While he is great at getting me going and everything else is extremely pleasurable… I’ve never been able to orgasm. Ever. It’s starting to hurt our sexual tension cause by now we figured it would’ve happened. We have tried every trick we’ve looked up. So do you have any tips? I’d be thankful for anything at this point.

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    If you’re talking about having an orgasm from intercourse, it’s not unusual for women not to orgasm that way. The problem is lack of clitoral stimulation. I have many articles on my articles page that can help, but three quick things: the woman-on-top position, the coital alignment technique, and adding a vibrator during intercourse.

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