About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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6 Tips for Having Casual Sex

Casual sex isn’t just for sluts anymore. Maura Kelly gives six tips for how to have casual sex.

Lovelies:

Over the weekend, I spent some time with my dear friend Jack, a frequent contributor to Nerve.com, where he writes the column “I Did It for Science.” Jack is absolutely frighteningly brilliant–or at least, I’m always half-terrified, when I’m with him, that I won’t be able to keep up: He has a B.A. from Brown and a Ph.D. in Medieval Literature from Duke. And yet, he’s no geek: When he talks, you’re mesmerized by the stories he tells, amazed by the books he waxes so eloquent about it, and laughing at the jokes he’s always making. Plus, he’s so rakishly handsome–with a thick swirl of ginger hair, a toothy smile, and high cheekbones–that I always have a moment of elevated heart-beating when I first see him again. As if all that weren’t fantastic enough, he is a huge sweetheart: in addition to being attentive and sweet when we’re hanging out, he also goes out of his way to help me in any way he can. Read more

6 Doggy-Style Problems and How to Solve Them

If you don’t like doggy-style sex for some reason, the problem may be fixable, according to Hayley MacMillen.

When you think of doggy style, you probably think of kneeling on all fours while your partner grabs your hips and enters you from behind … but this isn’t the only option. This position is easy to modify, which is good news for those of us for whom it doesn’t work perfectly every time. Ahead, six common doggy-style struggles and what to do about them. Read more

Two Hot Foreplay Techniques to Turn On a Woman

These two hot foreplay techniques can help you smoothly transition to manual or oral sex.

One of the most fun aspects of sex is creating anticipation and building sexual tension. Spending plenty of time kissing, hugging, and caressing your lover helps do that, of course, but even when you are both ready to “head south,” it’s still a good idea to take your time getting there. The more turned on your lover is, the more responsive she will be to your desires. These two hot ways to warm up your lover will take the anticipation and sexual tension you’ve created to the next level. Read mo

6 Oral Sex Techniques That Deserve Some Kind of Medal

These six oral techniques deserve some kind of medal, says Heather Jennings.

This is kind of depressing, but we’re going to give it to you straight. According to a 2010 Esquire survey that the Internet will never let die, women may not be as excited about oral as we’ve been led to believe. To make matters worse, there really is such thing as an oral sex gap — women are twice as likely to go down on their partners and half as likely to receive pleasure when the favor is returned.

While oral sex sounds like a great appetizer to the main event in theory, 10 percent of the Esquire women said they didn’t like it at all. And a whopping 44 percent of women said it could be “nice” every once in a while. What gives? Well, you know, and we know, that many aren’t as proficient as they claim to be in the ways of the tongue beneath the sheets. And many of us women are shy about asking for what we want in bed, making even the best attempt at oral very awkward indeed. Read more

11 Absolute Best Places for a Quickie

Lindsay Tigar rates these eleven locations the absolute bes places for quickie sex.

No time to take off your shoes or pants? No problem. When you gotta-have your girlfriend right this very second but you are both strapped for time or in a location that doesn’t lend to a long, intimate encounter, you need to pull a quickie out of your sexual toolkit.

“A ‘quickie’ is fast and hot sex that you both enjoy when you don’t have the time for a lot of foreplay and leisurely lovemaking. Of all the ways to have sex, quickies at times can be one of the most exciting,” sexpert Coleen Singer says. “This is a spontaneous, fast romp when you are supposed to be doing something else!” Read more

Does Clitoris Size Matter?

Does clitoris size matter when it comes to female orgasm? For women who have problems reaching orgasm, it’s more likely due to location, not size, says Lisa Fogarty.

Since the dawn of time, men have been comparing penis sizes for sport (and, cough, reminding themselves that size doesn’t always matter). Women aren’t immune to comparisons — 1 in 7, according to the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, has actually considered getting the lips of her vagina surgically trimmed. But what about the clitoris, the magical ~love button~ (with over 8,000 nerve endings!) that pushes you to orgasm? Does the size of that matter? Read more

7 Sex Positions That Help Men Last Longer

One reason that women do not have orgasms from sexual intercourse is that their partners don’t last long enough. These seen sex positions can help with thatt although one is more a technique than a position.

Ever find yourself in the heat of the moment… and then things are over WAY too soon? Endurance is no laughing matter, and it’s something that can create a mess of even the best planned nights.

But how can we help our date to last longer? Sex positions that create relatively shallow penetration are quite helpful in having him last longer before orgasm since deep thrusting (like what you do in doggy style) often makes guys come a lot earlier than desired. Read more

Recent Comments

  • ken: Dear Fran, I am a mature,married,70 yr. old man who just love giving safe and sane,maintainance spankings to...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Many women prefer to start small with anal, but big is quite enjoyable.
  • Dorian: Would 4.5/4.25 be ideal or enough for good anal? As anal is more tight I guess that the ideal penis size...
  • Alle P: Popping the penis (tip #2) is something my husband loves to do even if I’m not deepthroating but it...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: This is an excellent article, but you do need to actually read it and watch the video, not just...
  • Mike: What a bunch of crap and a waste of time who ever wrote this doesn’t explain or give any of the tips they...
  • Mixxxer: You nailed it! Exploring sex positions and allowing your partner to do it is a sense of intimate sexual...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: That is definitely on the small side.
  • Fox: Thanks. Would 4.25/4.5 inches be just too small/”is in yet?” for most women even with positions for...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: A woman should be able to feel five inches or more. Positions help, but it depends on the woman.