About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Bondage Positions for Beginners

Bondage has entered the mainstream thanks to 50 Shades of Grey, but it’s still new to lots of people. If you’d like to try it, but are not sure where to start, Mikayla has some bondage positions for beginners.

One of the very first articles I ever wrote for TT (10 years ago!) was on Bondage!  Back then bondage was a “hush-hush” topic that so many people were hesitant to explore.  Nowadays, bondage has taken on a more prominent role, even mainstreaming in some ways.  Heck, the ultra popular 50 Shades of Grey movie has many bondage-esque scenes in it!  Bondage doesn’t have to bbondage_positions_for_beginnerse scary, or hurt, or be something only “Dominant and submissives” would like.  Heck no!  There are some simple and pleasing bondage positions and scenarios that any couple could enjoy.  Read on for just a few and bring some bondage to your bed! Read more

Is Cunnilingus an Acquired Taste?

Three young men reveal what they really think about performing cunnilingus.

Curious how guys’ attitudes about cunnilingus change over time, Cosmopolitan.com asked 15 guys ages 19, 23, and 28 how they feel about going down on women.​ Here’s what they said.

1. What do you call going down on a girl? Eating her out? Cunnilingus? Read more

20 Natural Ways to Boost Your Libido

If you seem to be suffeering from a libido malfunction, Vivian Kelly reveals twenty ways to boost it naturally.

Suffering a libido malfunction? We all experience a dead sex drive at some point during womanhood. Let’s be honest, sometimes life just gets in the way. Stress, kids, too much work, fatigue, they can all cause your libido to go into hibernation.

Don’t fret – you aren’t alone. There are plenty of things you can do to ignite the lust back into your life and banish that waning libido for good.

​To get the best out of sex, we tapped into the brains of sex experts and nutritionists alike to find out what you can do to revive your sexual desire – the natural way.

From sensual aromatherapy to frisky food here are the best tips and tricks to put the sizzle back back into the bedroom stat. Read more

What to Do with the Other Woman During a Threesome

If you’re a woman who isn’t sure what to do with the other woman in a threesome, sexologist Ava Cadell, Ph.D., shares some suggestions.

So you’ve decided to recruit a third party to your no-pants dance. Woo! That is awesome. But now what? (Cue crickets.) Inviting another woman into your bedroom for a threesome is as much about you as it is your guy, but unlike the man in your life, you’ve probably never gotten jiggy with a woman—which puts you at a disadvantage. And if you and the other lady stay focused on him, that doesn’t equal a good time for anyone since it can cause a competitive vibe between women, says sexologist Ava Cadell, Ph.D., founder of Sexpert.com. Read more

5 Mind-Blowing Doggy-Style Positions

Spice up doggy-style tonight with one of these mind=blowing variations.

#1 Tight-Legged

Getting into the typical doggy stance, have your girl keep her legs closed and open yours around them. As well, get her to arch her back and lean on her hands rather than lean down and rest on her elbows on the bed (or whatever surface you happen to be on). To help her maintain that stance, wrap your hand around her hair and give it an occasional tug while you’re having sex.

In addition to hair-pulling, you can rub her spine lightly and even hug her waist while you penetrate her. Legs closed is an interesting position because it also gives the female partner some control over a position that is sometimes considered to be a very submissive position for women. Read more

A Porn Star Explains Threesomes

Porn star Joanna Angel explains threesomes.

Porn stars: They’re just like us! Joanna Angel really is, though, and I’m not just saying that because she and I both identify as chosen people. Angel is more than a porn star — she’s a porn auteur who writes, directs, acts, and runs her own company, BurningAngel.com (NSFW, obviously).

When she’s not busy getting her brains banged out on camera or doling out advice for Vivid Radio, she’s doing what any sex-loving human does: Having tons of sex. Read more

3 Full-Body-Contact Sex Positions

Enhance your orgasm with these three full-body-contact sex positions.

Winter is warm and cozy if you’re sipping cocoa by the fireplace in your flannel pajamas while buried under three blankets, but when it comes to having sex in the snowy months… yeeesh. If those sheets even start to slide off, the chilly air and goosebumps can take you right out of the moment. In the interest of making your sex life the hottest it’s ever been when it’s freezing outside, we found three special full-body sex positions designed to maximize skin contact. The benefit: You stay warm, turned on and ready for round two. That’s way more fun than cranking up the thermostat. Read more

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