About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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The Beginner’s Guide to Sharing Fantasies through Dirty Talk

We all talk dirty in our heads, says Tammy Nelson. Here’s how to verbalize what you’re thinking.

Ever want to talk dirty to your partner but aren’t sure how to do it? Are you shy and don’t know the words to use that won’t offend them, or make you feel silly? Or maybe you’re thinking about the sexy things in your head that you want to do to your partner and you would love to say them out loud, but you don’t have a clue how to begin to verbalize them.

If you’re thinking sexy thoughts, you can make the transition to talking “dirty” in bed, if you’re curious about what that might be like. Trying it a few times, you may realize that it brings an erotic energy into your lovemaking that you didn’t know you had. Read more

4 Sexy Ways to Speed Up Her Orgasm

When you want to leave her satisfied but don’t have all night, here are four sexy ways to speed up her orgasm.

You bang a jar on a counter to help open it up. But a woman is not a jar, warns Emily Morse, a doctor of human sexuality and host of the popular sex podcast Sex with Emily. Her point: You can’t just bang your partner harder to help her achieve a speedier orgasm.  Read more

What NOT to Do During Foreplay

Definitely don’t skip foreplay entirely because you think it doesn’t matter.

1. Please do not act like you’re doing her a favor. Girls can tell when you’re just doing a lot of foreplay because you feel like you want a damn medal, and when you’re doing it because you genuinely enjoy it and you genuinely want her to enjoy it. Please do not wait for that medal, as it will never come Read more

Scientists Think They’ve Figured Out What Makes a Penis Attractive

Scientists think that they have finally figured out what makes a penis attractive to women.

A paper released yesterday in the Journal of Sexual Medicine reveals the results of an experiment designed to figure out what kinds of dicks women (though not men for some reason) like to look at. The experiment, which was intended to shed some light on the aesthetic effects of one type of corrective penile surgery seems to have stumbled upon part of the secret aesthetic language of the penis. Read more


Giving a Woman Oral Sex

Ian Kerner gives men a no-nonsense guide to going down on their women.

How often do you go down on your partner before intercourse?
And intercourse aside, how often do you engage in oral sex just for the sake of… oral sex?

If the numbers are low, I have to say: You and are your partner are missing out. I mean, I know. It can be near-impossible to resist diving in to sexy time penis first. But an intense session of cunnilingus can definitely add something to your intimate life that neither of you are getting from the same old in-and-out.  Read more

4 Steps to a Hotter Hook-Up

Pull off the perfect hook-up with these smart strategies from Debby Herbenick, Ph,D.

Casual sex may seem simple on the surface, but a truly great hookup requires some serious thought. Watch this video from Men’s Health Sex Professor Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., and discover the strategies you need to pull off your hottest hookup ever.  Watch video

Study: Booty Calls Hotter Than One-Night Stands

According to science, booty calls are hotter than one-night stands.

Going through a dry spell? According to a this sex study, people seeking better sex lives might consider becoming someone’s booty call. That’s right — science has found casual sex is, generally, good sex, but more so in a friends-with-benefits arrangement rather than in the context of a one night stand. Read more

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