About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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8 Signs You’re Good at Oral Sex

Are good at govomg oral sex? Amanda Chatel gives eight signs that you’re doing it “right.”

Giving oral sex can definitely be a daunting task. Everybody’s likes and dislikes are different when it comes to being on the receiving end, and sometimes the person giving and the person receiving aren’t on the same page. It can make for a “Wait, am I good at giving oral sex?” or an “OMG, am I doing this right?” situation. Of all the things that come with giving oral sex, the biggest concern is usually whether or not you’re doing it “right.” Read more

5 Kinky (But Not Scary) Sex Positions Everyone Should Try

If you want to heat things up in the bedroom, try these five kinky, but not scary sex positions, says Koli Williams.

Sexy bedroom “spank and tickle” play is even more fun when you’re in these kinky sex positions.

1. Up against a wall. 

This one is a classic and you don’t have to do the whole hoisted-in-the-air thing to make it hot.

Simply being pushed up against the wall and keeping both feet on the ground can have a powerful effect. Using body pressure to stay firm up against the wall will likely make you both feel deliciously illicit.

Add some good hair gripping and it will be one of the most intense sex positions in your repertoire. Read more

6 Beach-Safe Sex Positions

Summer  isn’t over yet. Bethany Ramos reveals the best positions for sand-free sex on the beach.

Sex on the beach is more than just a delicious tropical drink — it’s a total fantasy, until you wake up with enough sand in your clam to make a pearl.

It usually ends up being an idea that seemed totally brilliant until it wasn’t and you’re left with itchy places, a chafed back, a few rogue seashells and probably a hangover, too.

Sex on the beach can be beautiful when you stick to a few ground rules: Don’t get caught. Don’t do it on a public beach where you might scar children for life, or get arrested. Don’t do it directly on the sand, and don’t forget to rinse off when you’re done (you’ll thank me later). Finally, do at it at your own risk. Read more

5 Simple Tweaks to Improve Your Sex Life

Shalish VJ says these five simple tweaks can improve your sex life and keep your relationship healthy.

A healthy, strong relationship can be one of the best things to have in life. A great relationship enhances all aspects of a person’s life including his physical health, his mind or mental state and his connections with friends and peers. If your relationship is not healthy, your life can become miserable. An astonishing increase in ‘grey divorce’ (a term that refers to the rising divorce rate among older couples) is the result of neglecting relationship.

Relationships are like investments; the better you put in, the better you get back. On that note, here are some great tips to help you maintain a healthy relationship. Read more

10 Tricks to Make Sex Better Tonight

Experts reveal ten tricks for taking charge and cranking up the heat in the bedroom.

We hear you, there’s nothing better than getting lucky. However, having great sex is about more than just luck. It’s about taking the initiative to add some heat to the proceedings so you can seduce her with sizzle. Read more

7 Sex Tips from Porn That Are Actually Worth Trying

Although porn is meant to be entertainment, not sex education, these seven sex tips from porn are actually worth trying.

So, let’s talk some porn, shall we? We’ve explored how it can possibly affect your relationship and self-confidence, but hey…maybe saucy videos, images, and/or literature aren’t all bad. While some is, you know, yech, other pornography can include tips and tricks that could be totally fun to integrate into your sexytime — depending on your preferences, of course. Read more

7 Ways Men Talk themselves OUT of Getting Laid


You can talk yourself into a woman’s bed – or you can talk yourself out of it. Here are seven ways men talks themselves out of getting laid.

Picture, for a moment, the perfect evening: Everything is going fantastic and the mood is just right. Whether you’re out on the town for dinner and drinks, or enjoying a relaxing evening at home watching a movie, you know what you want and you know you’re about to get it.

That is, until he opens his mouth and ruins everything.

There are many ways a man can manage to talk his way out of getting laid. From unreasonable sexual demands to killing the mood with talk of politics or religion, if there’s a way to put out flames of lust and passion, some guys are destined to find themselves going from the Love Shack to the Doghouse.

We talked to a number of women who were willing to share exactly what it is that men have done that set off red flags. Here’s seven that stood out from the pack: Read more

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