About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Is Facebook Anti-Lesbian?

Best FriendsI have been on Facebook for eight years, but I suspect my days  there are numbered because Facebook seems to have an anti-lesbian bias. I just received my second ban from posting within a two day span Two days ago, Facebook removed a photo I posted a week or so earlier in my secret Facebook group for bi-curious, bisexual, and lesbian women. It falsely claimed that it had been posted to my personal timeline, and banned me for 24 hours. (The posts in a secret group cannot be seen my anyone, but members.) Less than  24 hours after the block was lifted, Facebook removed another old photo, and again falsely claimed that it had bee posted on my personal timeline. Even though the photo had been posted days earlier, this showed that I was “defying” Facebook, so I have been banned for three more days. Continue reading

10 Signs a Woman Is Willing to Have a Threesome

A threesome might be one of your fantasies, but what about your wife or girlfriend? These ten signs may indicate that she is as interested as you are.

A threesome is arguably every man’s ultimate fantasy. But making that fantasy a reality is no easy feat. So how can one determine whether the person they’re in a relationship with would ever be open to one? I personally have know idea. That’s why I’ve reached out to somebody who does know.

The person I spoke to was Chris Maxwell Rose, an independent sex educator and one of two founding members of Pleasure Mechanics, a website that serves as a vast electronic library of sexual knowledge, the riches of which are shared through online classes taught by both Rose and her partner. When it comes to threesomes, you could say Rose wrote the book on it. Because, well, she did. Read more

How to Fist a Woman Like a Pro

Learn how to give a woman a hand. She will be glad you did.

I’m just gonna dive into the deep end right here and say I’m here to talk about fisting. *Blush*

First, here are the disclaimers.

1. No, I do not have a stretched out vagina.

I’m not a virgin and I don’t think my vagina feels like I am, but I am nice and snug. I’m grippy.

Vaginas are versatile. Vaginas are elastic. The vagina is fantastic. We can hold a tiny vibrating egg with ease and accommodate an intense fisting — all with the same lovely pussy.

Magic. I swear. Read more

Why Some Women Cannot Climax from Intercourse

A large percentage of women cannot climax from sexual intercourse alone. Although penis size, performance, and level of attraction are known causes for inability to reach orgasm from intercourse, they are not the only factors. The shape of some women’s vaginas may also play a role, according to a new study.

We often hear how a man’s anatomy is to credit – or blame – for a partner’s level of sexual pleasure.

But new research suggests that a woman’s own genital configuration will ultimately determine her ability to orgasm during penetrative sex.

The study, conducted by Leslie Hoffman at Indiana University’s department of anatomy, says the clitoris’ close proximity to the urinary tract is essential for satisfaction.

And, interestingly, it’s something that’s determined while still in the womb. Read more

The Two Riskiest Sex Positions for Your Penis

A new study found that around half of penis fractures occur in one popular sex position, and over a quarter in another favorite.

One bedroom move could put your manhood in jeopardy: Brazilian research finds roughly half of sex-related penile fractures happen during woman-on-top sex. Read more

5 Steamy Reasons to Shower Together EVERY Morning

If saving water isn’t a good enough reason to shower with your partner every morning, here are five more good reasons.

The movies out there have taught us over the years that every shower scene turns into steamy SEX shower within seconds. Of course, movies forget to mention some important things that can either make it into a fantastic experience or wonder why on Earth would someone portray it like that in a movie when the reality is so different.

Apart from the sexual portion, showering as a couple has other immense benefits — and no, we’re not just talking about saving on water.

Here’re 5 reasons you should get sudsy together instead of solo: Read more

What a Straight Women Learned at an All-Female Sex Party

A straight woman reveals what she learned by attending an all-female sex party.

The first time I saw a dental dam was in eighth-grade health class. The second was at a sex party in New York City’s Lower East Side.


I never thought I’d go to a sex party. Sex parties, to me, were the sort of in-real-life bacchanalia that you only see in porn. Not really my thing. I mean, I identify as a confident and fairly sexually adventurous woman, but I’m very tame in the sense that my preferences are strictly male and I’m partial to monogamy.

So, why did I go to an upscale, ladies-only play party last weekend? Read more

Recent Comments

  • Svetlana Ivanova: Do what you can. It is impossible for a woman to have no nipple sensitivity.
  • John: My wife is not in nipples sensitive! How am I handle this case?
  • Sunny: I always imagine myself being desired by boys I have seen in the past that I have thought were sexy. I think...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: I don’t have any suggestions other than what I gave here. It does show the importance of...
  • Matthew: Hey Svetlana. These ideas are great but I have an issue. My wife and I engage in anal sex sometimes, and she...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: I don’t have one planned, so I couldn’t say.
  • TucTuc: Hi, Svetlana, when you will write your next penis size articicle? :D
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Between my legs and those of many other women I know.
  • Lopez: Where is your proof that 7-8 inches is better?
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Size doesn’t matter? That’s ridiculous. Six inches is absolute minimum, but 7-8 is...