About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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The 12 Different Kinds of Sex Defined

Tammy Black defines the twelve kinds of sex.

I got to thinking; how many kinds of sex are there? Oh, come on, you know you were wondering too!

Let us begin.

First Time Sex — It’s usually clumsy at best and unless you are a good communicator (screaming God’s name doesn’t count) then you will most likely not get the most satisfying result. That’s politically correct talk for: you won’t reach your highest peak. The thought is usually a lot more rewarding than the actual act. Read more

4 BDSM Relationship Tips for Beginners

Elizabeth Mitchell gives four BDSM relationship tips for beginners.

So you devoured all three Fifty Shades of Grey books, and now you think you might be interested in a BDSM relationship yourself? Before you go out and find your very own Christian Grey, peep these tips to ensure your safety. Read more

4 Fellatio Techniques You Need to Try

Funny Girl Sex Guide demonstrates four fellatio techniques you need to try.

How to Finger a Girl for the First Time

FingeringSo, you think a girl is going to let you finger her. Fingering can be very pleasurable to a girl. It can even give her an orgasm. On the other hand, if you don’t do it correctly, nothing will happen, and you might even hurt her.  Fingering a girl isn’t rocket science, but you can’t just go shoving your fingers into her either. To have the best experience for both of you, follow these five tips for fingering a girl for the first time.  Continue reading

How to Dominate a Woman in Bed

Dominaning WomenThere are millions and millions of “nice guys” out there desperately seeking sex, and yet the most desirable women consistently end up in having sex with aggressive, dominant men, aka “bad boys.” Why do women want to be dominated in bed?  The desire to surrender, submit, and satisfy men sexually is hard-wired into  the female psyche. Women often talk about being “taken,” “possessed,” or “used.” Females have a primal urge  to “give” their bodies to males who are aggressive and strong enough to “take” them, meaning males who are aggressive and strong enough to also protect them. Continue reading

What You Should Know About Swingers’ Clubs

You’ve heard of swinging. You may even be interested in trying it. If you are, here’s what you should know beforehand.

Whether it’s going to the same restaurant every week, doing laundry every Wednesday, or hitting the sack at exactly 11 p.m. every night, routines can get boring. Similarly, having sex with the same person – and only that person – for a long period of time can get boring, too.

But if you still want to be in a relationship with them, what do you do? You can’t cheat, as that will destroy the trust and honesty in your relationship. So what other options are there? When that feeling of sexual routine begins to set in, many forward-thinking couples nowadays consider swinging as a solution. Read more

How to Be Cool on a Sex Date

Amanda Chatel gives five tips for getting what a sex date is all about – the sex.

There’s nothing worse than being on a date, one that’s not too exciting, and just wishing it could end in sex. It’s as though you’re counting down the minutes, maybe even weighing the social graces of when it’s actually OK to mention that it’s time to head out and get it on somewhere. It kinda makes you wonder why you just didn’t skip the whole date thing and get straight to the fucking, doesn’t it? Besides, it’s not like you’re looking for love at the moment anyway.

Far too many people waste their time on chatter and getting to know someone when in reality they just want to bang. Even my friends who use hookup apps often complain to me that although both parties are well aware that they’re there to have sex, there’s this awkward period of sort of dancing around the inevitable. But why? Why is it so hard for us to just drop our pants and get right in there? Is it that ingrained that forging some superficial connection is a necessary step before a physical connection can be even broached? If so, un-train your brain and go for the jugular, sexually speaking, of course. You’re there to get down, so just do it already. Read more

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