About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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The Right and Wrong Ways to Do Butt Stuff to a Man

Chewy Boese reveals the right and wrong ways to do butt stuff to a man.

It seems like you can’t go anywhere these days without reading or hearing about straight couples engaging in anal penetration, analingus, and other sexual things to do with the bums of both parties. More and more men are embracing their sexuality and shrugging the ridiculous stereotype that doing butt stuff is “gay” (please dump that guy if he’s the kind you’re dating). Read more

How to Ask Your Partner for Kinkier Sex

Sexpert Emily Morse answers a reader question about how to ask for kinkier sex:

I’ve been dating my current boyfriend for just about a year now, and he’s amazing! We have great sex, but it’s not always the most exciting. He regularly asks me what I’m interested in, but I don’t know how to approach the topic. We recently took a sex questionnaire (where you compare answers at the end), and it really helped me to get some of my wants out on the table—which he’s been very responsive to—but I’d still like to try some more exciting things, like temperature play and being tied down.

How do I bring these up without (a) scaring the pants off him and (b) making him feel bad? Because I love our sex, I just think it could be more intense and sensual.

Thank you in advance,

Amelia, 26, France Read more

Here’s What 9 Happy Couples Always Do Before Bed

Although routines get a bad rap when it comes to sex, some routines can be can make sex better.

Routines get a bad rep when it comes to romance. (Cue images of eating dinner in front of the TV and passing out before you can even think about getting frisky.) But that’s not necessarily the case. Plenty of happy couples will tell you that routine isn’t the enemy – in fact, establishing a nightly habit can help strengthen your bond and make you even happier. As counterintuitive as it may sound, the secret to staying out of a relationship rut might actually be to establish a daily routine. Read more

A Guide to Erotic Spanking

Tracey Cox provides a guide to erotic spanking.

The 5 Sex Positions That Could Banish Your Stress for Good

To relieve stress, skip your workout and give these sex positions a try.

It2’s 017 and, friends, times are stressful. While stress is a natural occurrence in our daily lives, too much of it can wreak havoc, making us tense, exhausted, and, um, orgasm-less.

“Women are often guilty of saying, ‘I’m fine, everything’s fine!’ but left wondering why they can’t climax,” says sexologist Megan Stubbs, Yep, you read that right—stress will create a huge mental block between you and your grand finale. Read more

How to Master the Art of a Not-So-Subtle Booty Call

Corey Stieg reveals how to master the art of the not-so-subtle booty call.

The phrase, “You up?” has a way of taking a text message conversation from flirty to frustrating — fast. But sometimes, when you need to get across that, yes, you would like to have sex with that person in the very immediate future, asking if they’re up is a simple way to do it.

But people tend to have a strong reaction to this cliché booty call ask because it can feel selfish in nature, explains Samantha Burns, LMHC, a millennial-relationship expert. “[It’s] like the pursuer doesn’t want to put in the effort to cultivate an emotional connection, and cares more about gratifying his or her own sexual needs,” Burns says. Read more

The 8 Must-Try Sex Positions, According to Real Women

Real women reveal their favorite sex positions and what makes them so hot.

If the phrase “familiarity breeds contempt” rings true, going through all the same motions in the bedroom, time and time again, doesn’t exactly help in the love department. Relationship experts recommend keeping things spontaneous (whether that means trying a different time, place, or generally being more adventurous in bed) to avoid falling into a cycle of boring “duty” sex, but also to foster healthy habits in a long-term relationship.

Below, we asked eight real women for their favorite sex moves, then consulted sex experts for their tips on how to upgrade your own go-to moves so they feel new and exciting. In short, it doesn’t take a Kama Sutra master to have better sex, it’s really about breaking from habit, exploring the unknown, and enhancing what already works. Read more

Recent Comments

  • Flinkd: Bigger penis is stretching the walls of the vagina better. (nerve endings feel more pressure, therefore...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
  • Fox2: Not sure if commenting is working at the moment. Thanks but even though these positions will help maximise my...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: These positions help maximize what you have, whatever that is.
  • Fox: Would these positions help with a penis 4-4.5inches long and around 4inches around? Or do you need to be packing...
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  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
  • Jane Doe: This article not only implies that all men want submissive partners, it tells women to take on a persona....