About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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7 Anal Sex Beginner Tips

If you’re thinking of trying anal sex for the first time (or tried it and didn’t like it), here are seven tips for beginners.

Let’s just get this out of the way: anal sex is a major league sex move. It is not for rookies. Despite what you might have heard from friends, your partner, or seen on the internet, anal penetration is not something all people enjoy (which, as it turns out, is true of all sex acts ever). But if you’re thinking about taking the plunge, there are a few anal sex tips for beginners that should, quite frankly, be plastered on looseleaf paper all around town so everyone can get on the same page before they start. Read more

8 Orgasm Tips to Add to Your Sex Life

These eight orgasm tips can spice up your sex life starting right now.

Here at Refinery29, we don’t believe that any approach to sex is one-size-fits-all. Different techniques work for different people (with different partners, and at different times). That said, we have collected quite a few tried-and-tested tips that sex therapists, sex toy experts, and sex-having people swear can help you reach orgasm (and maybe even orgasms). No, orgasm isn’t the be-all-end-all of sex, but it’s part of the gamut of sexual experience, and a pretty great one at that. Read more

5 Breast Fondling Techniques

A woman’s breasts are an erotic hot spot. These five breast fondling techniques will stoke the fires of her arousal.

A woman’s breasts are a symbol of her femininity, and are often considered her second most erogenous zone, after the genitals. For the majority of women, their breasts are a source of great sexual pleasure. Not only that, but breast stimulation also increases vaginal lubrication. Even so, women do vary in how much they enjoy breast play. Although, most women find these five breast fondling techniques to be quite pleasurable, with a new lover, starting out slowly and gently to gauge her reaction is the best approach. Read more

How to Have Stand-Up Sex Against a Wall

Stand-up sex against a wall is a Hollywood favorite. Experts weigh in on how realistic it is.

“In movies, I’m always seeing guys lifting a girl up and having sex against a wall. I’ve tried it, but it doesn’t really work—is there some trick I don’t know about?” – Terry L. Grove City, PA

Moushumi Ghose, MFT, pyschotherapist/sex therapist: Nope, there’s no trick to it, except being super-strong. Standing-up sex has lots of in-the-moment passion, but without a counter or some type of support, it’s not a position you’ll probably be able to hold for very long. Read more

5 Sex Positions for More Clitoral Stimulation

Not  fEnough clitoral stimulation is the most common reason for women not having orgasms from intercourse. These five sex positions help fix that problem.

Despite how every rom-com ever makes it look, no, just hopping on top during sex isn’t going to give you magical, spontaneous orgasms either.

So, if clitoral stimulation is your jam, there are some adjustments you can make to your go-to positions that will definitely increase your ~satisfaction factor~. An extra hand or a toy down there can do wonders… Read more

A Blow Job Guide for Women Who Hate Giving Blow Jobs

Every man loves fellatio, but not every woman loves to give it. If you are one of those woman, this guide will help.

What’s the thing that every man loves the most? Drinking a cold beer on a hot day and watching his favorite game on TV? Sure… while his woman kneels down in front of him and wraps her mouth and tongue around his love tool! Read more

5 Must-Haves for a Successful Friends With Benefits Arrangement

JoEllen Notte says you must have these five things for a successful friends-with-benefits relationships.

I love having friends with benefits!

No-strings-attached sex with someone who I’m comfortable with? Awesome!

The thing is, because so many of us were taught that committed relationships were the goal of all sex, this is new territory for a lot of folks — and that can lead to trouble.

With that in mind, I’ve put together this handy list of 5 keys to successful friends with benefits relationships to help you keep your FWB time WTF-free: Read more

Recent Comments

  • Mixxxer: You nailed it! Exploring sex positions and allowing your partner to do it is a sense of intimate sexual...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: That is definitely on the small side.
  • Fox: Thanks. Would 4.25/4.5 inches be just too small/”is in yet?” for most women even with positions for...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: A woman should be able to feel five inches or more. Positions help, but it depends on the woman.
  • Fox: Is anything 5inches and over good then? I take it even positions for small penises wouldn’t help those...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Less than five inches is going to make a woman wonder if it is in yet.
  • Fox: Seems pretty clear that size does matter to most women! Guess those in the 7-9 inches range probably have what...
  • Jayne: For women loving women, and women loving their men, have you heard (and got to try) the InJoyUs? This is like...
  • manawa: yehh I NEED TO LEARN ALL THIS GREAT TIPS
  • deepak: Hi to all. We have been having this fun of threesome for quite a while now..at first my wife hasitated but...