About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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The 9 Sexiest Foreplay Tips You Can Ever Use in Bed

If sex is becoming boring or predictable, try these nine sexy foreplay tips for men and women.

Sex is fun and exciting.

Well, it is, at least for the first few months.

And somewhere along the way, it starts to get just a little predictable and just a little boring.

And when you get there, and still don’t do anything to keep the sexual frenzy on a high, it’s only a matter of time before it starts to feel a chore! Read more

Stiff Competition: Map Reveals Average Penis Sizes from Around the World

A map has revealed the average erect penis size of men around the world.

Nervous men need to wait no longer to see how they measure up against their rivals.

An interactive graphic has been published which compares erect penis sizes across the globe.

Africa bests stiff competition to claim the title for the world’s largest penises, while men from Asia are shown to have the smallest on average. Read more

Get More Pleasure Out of Common Sex Positions

A sexpert shares her secrets for making little moves that are practically guaranteed to give you a powerful orgasm.

Boosting your pleasure big time may be as easy as making a few small tweaks to some common sex positions. “The secret to having more intense, enjoyable sex is to know how to angle yourself so that you’re hitting your most sensitive areas while allowing yourself to really let go and relax,” says Patricia Taylor, Ph.D., sex educator and author of the newly revised Expanded Orgasm. More pleasure may mean hitting the big O, but it also means feeling more turned on and connected to your body. No need to go through the entire Kama Sutra trying to find the best techniques to get you hot: Simply play around with these twists on classic positions to up the intensity. Read more

Are Regular Blow Jobs the Key to a Happy Marriage?

Samara Rose says the key to a happy marriage is weekly (if not daily) blow jobs.

My friend and her husband are ending their marriage over the most banal of issues: sex.

“But Samara, your marriage didn’t work out. Should you be passing judgment?”

Shut your pie hole! My marriage didn’t end because I wouldn’t blow my husband!

They’re ending their marriage because they are “sexually incompatible.” He wants her to do certain things that she hasn’t done since they were dating. He’s angry that she’s being “withholding.” She’s angry that he’s a “sex addict.”

Essentially, they are ending their marriage over blow jobs.

I do not profess to be a sexpert. However, If I were to write a manual on how to have a successful marriage, I would name it, “Put Your Mouth On His Penis.” After all, the way to a man’s heart is through oral sex. Read more

10 Advanced Sex Positions Only Experts Can Do

If you like a challenge, try these ten advanced sex positions that only bedroom experts can do.

Sex is like ice cream; we all have our favorite flavor. Once we’ve found the one that that satisfies us every time, we stick with it. Hey, why fix anything if it’s not broken? But let’s face it, cookies ‘n’ cream night after night will have even the most dedicated customer craving a new spoonful to savor. Read more

A Beginner’s Guide to Rough Sex

Rough sex is now in the mainstream, but if you’re a beginner, Jenn Sinrich has some tips.

Sure, it might not be for everyone. But more women are in favor of rough, dominating, and submissive sex than against it. According to a study by the University of North Texas, 57 percent of sexually active ladies are turned on by the idea of forceful sex. “It all comes down to the fact that we want to be desired,” says Claudia Six, Ph.D., sexologist, relationship coach and author of Erotic Integrity: How to Be True to Yourself Sexually. And that’s totally natural and integral to a healthy, satisfying sex life, says Six. Read more

Women Share the Lies They’ve Told in Bed

Fifteen women reveal the outrageous lies they’ve told during sex.

For most guys, sex is a pretty tricky subject. We’re taught from a young age that it’s weird, or bad, or dirty, or sinful. Then puberty hits and, holy cow, we can’t think about anything else. We aren’t given any real instructions except for “don’t get an infection” and “don’t get anyone pregnant,” unless we get the explicit instructions “don’t have any sex with anyone until you’re married.”

Our first times are awkward, bad, sometimes painful and sometimes emotionally scarring. Ultimately we kind of cobble together a toolkit of “things to do during sex” through trial and error. But even by their mid- to late-20s, many guys really aren’t any good in bed.  Read more

Recent Comments

  • manawa: yehh I NEED TO LEARN ALL THIS GREAT TIPS
  • deepak: Hi to all. We have been having this fun of threesome for quite a while now..at first my wife hasitated but...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: If it’s true, it would be by the same method: strengthening their vaginal muscles. They...
  • Nguyen quynh: Thanks very much for your answer. I really appreciate it. I will try with a penis- sized object. By the...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Yes, the problem is that your vaginal muscles are not yet strong enough. The larger the object...
  • Nguyen quynh: Dear Svetlana, i don’t know how to isolate 2 vaginal muscles. I try to squeeze with my fingers, i...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Definitely a normal and common desire.
  • Steve: My wife has done number 5 but whenever she does i’m secretly hoping she’ll put her finger in my...
  • Steve: I keep hoping she’ll stick her finger in ny butt when she’s going down on me. Is this a normal...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: For many women, it is.